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New York's Slap to the Facebook
from the oh-no-you-didn't dept.
There are three questions that any politician attacking social networking sites, should have to answer, in order to be specific about what they want. First, what kind of contact do they think the social networking sites should prohibit between adults and minors? All politicians agree on prohibiting sexual solicitation, but that's a non-issue since that's already against the law. So are they asking the sites to block adults and minors from messaging each other at all? Or only "flirtatious" messages, or only requests to meet in person? Some of these answers are more ridiculous than others, but let them pick one. Second, if the site does try to monitor for inappropriate contact between adults and minors, is there any practical way to stop someone from falsely signing up as a minor? Third, if someone's account is cancelled for inappropriate behavior, what good does that do when they can just create another one? (Cuomo's office declined to respond to these questions, referring me only to their press releases. Facebook did not respond to requests for comment.)
Complaining about the futility of Internet regulation is about as hard as complaining about media coverage of Paris Hilton. But in this case, it's not merely that the laws wouldn't do any good, it's that I can't see how the political grandstanding could even plausibly lead up to any laws, even stupid ones.
Facebook's big concession in their settlement with Cuomo was that they would respond faster to complaints sent to abuse@facebook.com about inappropriate contact. (Previously, the AG's office had sent test complaints to the abuse@facebook.com address saying things like, "My 13 YEAR OLD received this extremely inappropriate message from a local NYC man. Please take action IMMEDIATEL!" (sic), and received no response.) But what constitutes "abuse"? Facebook's Terms of Service do not mention contact between adults and minors except to say that you may not "solicit personal information from anyone under 18" (as written, this prohibition would apply to everyone, and not just adults). Does that mean you can send flirtatious messages to an underage user as long as you don't ask for contact information (which you wouldn't need to do anyway, if it's posted on their profile and they add you to their friends list)? For that matter, does that mean if you're 18 and you ask a 17-year-old Facebook user for her phone number, you're breaking the rules? (Or, wait, this applies even if you yourself are 17 as well!) Of course there's nothing new about terms of service agreements which are vaguely written and haphazardly enforced, or playing parlor games about how the terms would be absurd if taken literally. But when a government office is threatening to bring charges and possibly push for new laws unless Facebook agrees to enforce its own Terms of Service, then it's fair game to ask exactly what rules the AG's office is asking Facebook to make people follow.
What if Facebook blocked adults from contacting minors at all? Before, I would have assumed that Facebook would respond to this suggestion by saying that it was too draconian, that nobody had ever seriously tried to outlaw all contact between minors and adults on the Internet, etc. But Facebook's Chief Privacy Officer appeared at one point to endorse this policy as reasonable, by saying that, well, they did block adults from messaging minors on the site, even though they didn't. Cuomo's letter pointed out that any Facebook user can message any other user, and they still can. (I asked Facebook if their Chief Privacy Officer was misquoted in the article, but they didn't respond.) So leaving aside the question of whether Facebook should try to stop adults from messaging minors, would it even be possible? Of course you could block registered adult users from messaging registered underage users. But since any adult who planned on doing something suspicious would probably do it from a "throwaway" account instead of their real one, the question is whether you could screen people from creating "throwaway" accounts pretending to be minors -- sort of the opposite of adult credit-card verification for porn sites. (My suggestion: Make the person answer a question like, 'The way to impress a girl in high school is with (a) looks; (b) intelligence; (c) sense of humor; or (d) "confidence"'. From listening to most adults, you'd think they have no clue about the correct answer to this, except for the ones who also add, 'What do you mean, "in high school"?')
Facebook's current screening system is that anyone who registers as a high school student (and if you're under 18, you have to register as a high school or college student -- homeschoolers and dropouts are out of luck unless they lie about their age), has to be confirmed by an existing student at that school, by sending them a friend request and having them confirm that you are friends. (Your account still works before you're confirmed, but you blocked from certain things that only high school accounts can do, such as browse for other members of that high school.) This is another recent change that Facebook made that was not listed in their settlement agreement -- previously, the Attorney General had documented that anybody under 18 could sign up and join a high school network, but now, you can't do this without getting another student to confirm you.
However, this can be circumvented as well. I'm not endorsing the following trick for any mischief-making, but I think it's sufficiently obvious that there's no reason not to point it out: (1) create a profile of a non-overweight girl and sign up as a member of a high school network, pending confirmation; (2) search for several boys in that network and send them friend requests; and (3) wait for at least one of them to confirm you back, which they will probably do, without even being sure if they actually know you or not. Voila, you've got your "high school student" account. Then you can presumably use that account as a foothold to approve other accounts, for example if you're a male and you want to create a fake high schooler profile as an actual guy, assuming you only want to pretend to be a teenager, not a female, because it's not like you're not some kind of weirdo.
Facebook could conceivably require real-world verification for anyone who signed up as a minor -- confirmation from their school, for example. But this would be competitive suicide for any site whose main draw is that everybody wants to go there because everybody else is already there, so they need signups to be as easy as possible. Even if Congress passed a law draconion enough that it required all social networking sites to do this, Facebook could just re-incorporate overseas (for a billion dollars, wouldn't you move to Canada, Mark?), or else a foreign competitor could take over the teen-social-networking market by offering signups without cumbersome verifications. What would Congress do then, pass a law requiring ISPs to block access to overseas social-networking sites? They couldn't even do that with child pornography.
Finally, if Facebook does cancel your account, you can always sign up for a new one instantly with a new e-mail address. Losing your Facebook account might be a harsh punishment for someone who had built up an extensive network of contacts around their profile. But I'll bet that any adult with a network of friends on Facebook, built around a profile that gives their real name and employer, is probably using a secondary profile with a lot less information on it if they're writing to 13-year-old girls. A dispensable secondary account like that can easily be replaced, so Facebook responding to abuse reports by closing people's accounts is just playing whack-a-mole. An arrest can stop someone permanently, but you can only arrest someone if they've actually broken the law, like sending an unambiguous sexual solicitation to an underage user.
So there's really nothing that Facebook or any other social-networking site could do to prevent adults from signing up as minors, to prevent adults and minors from messaging each other, or to keep abusers from creating new accounts. Occasionally, they are able to make some minor concessions that a politician can take credit for -- in July, the attorney general of Connecticut alerted Facebook to three sex offenders who had profiles on the site, which Facebook duly removed. Did the sex offenders then sign up for new profiles? Are most sex offenders on Facebook smart enough not to sign up under their real names? Story doesn't say. That's one reason I could never make it as a regular reporter, because you're not allowed to insert your own voice into the story even to point out the crashingly obvious.
But basically, the major issues that politicians keep bringing up about social networking sites, are unsolvable. For a politician, of course, this is the best of both worlds -- they can rail against social networking sites forever, knowing that the "problems" will never go away.
This is usually the point at which the writer inserts an obligatory note that the real solution is to sit down and talk to your kids. Well, yes and no. I think first you should be as informed as possible about what the various risks are, not just for online activity but for all of life's experiences, and then sit down and talk. You could even do the research together and make a Family Fun Night out of it! (Sound of teenagers groaning and fumbling for their iPods.) For openers: one study found that in one year in the U.S., "Law enforcement at all levels made an estimated 2,577 arrests for Internet sex crimes against minors", and only 39% of those were for crimes against real, identifible minors (excluding arrests for To Catch A Predator-style sting operations). On the other hand, the National Transportation Safety Board reports that every year, about 3.4 million people are injured and 41,000 are killed in auto accidents in the U.S. Even this rough comparison would seem to suggest that until you've talked to your kid about every last detail you can think of regarding car safety, that's a better use of time than talking about Facebook. Perhaps you think it's an apples-and-oranges comparison because the sex crimes statistic counts only arrests, not actual incidents. But then the question is whether a true apples-to-apples comparison has ever been done, or how you could do one. The point is that there is some objective truth about the relative risks, and if you read even just one study comparing them, you're better informed than 90% of the people out there, including most parents. You want to be the cool Mom? You don't have to let your kids do everything, just have reasons for stuff!
My promise to my own future kids is that I won't ever make the mistake of thinking that just because I paid for their room and board for a few years, that makes me better informed about the various risks factors of different activities. I will probably be better informed than my kids, for a long while anyway, but that won't be why. And I hope we can teach them so much that before long they'll be better informed than most people, including most of their friends' parents. Then my wife will teach them to be polite enough not to point this out to their friends' parents, but with half their genes coming from me I wouldn't bet on it.
WOW (Score:4, Funny)
Aside from that, what's with all the common sense about teaching children about the dangers of the Internet before allowing them to use it? That is just politically incorrect, the author can't possibly be an American! Does Homeland Security know this guy is trying to take their job from them? Absolutely criminal!
Let me play "Devil's Advocate" on that one... (Score:4, Interesting)
Thing is, I take every reasonable step I can to protect my children from predators. If these, "social networking" sites aren't willing to show the same level of commitment to this that I have, then my only alternative is to block access to those sites.
but that only works at home....doesn't it? What about everywhere else they go?
So, speaking as a responsible parent, it would be nice if these "social networking" sites were also "socially responsible".
BTW - I have a MySpace page....and their spamblocking tools seem to be working.
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Re:Let me play "Devil's Advocate" on that one... (Score:5, Insightful)
Do you personally know of all the sex offenders in your local area? If not, why are you worried about the dangers of the Internet? And ooops, but most sexual abuse seems to be perpetrated by someone the victim knows rather than a stranger from the Internet. http://www.authorsden.com/visit/viewarticle.asp?AuthorID=70342&id=34001 [authorsden.com] How does the dangers of the Internet affect those statistics??????? Please please please will someone explain that to us. Are you certain the priest you see each week is not overly friendly? How about your wife's uncle bill?
If you are worried about the kids learning about sex, I can tell you straight up, better you tell them and guide them than they learn it from little johnny whose idea of sex is abusing girls... in a kid kind of way.
The real dangers are close enough for you to touch, NOT on the Internet.
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The real issue is missed here (Score:5, Insightful)
Then why do so many people let their kids wonder through the Internet unsupervised? It is just stupid. The simple solution is "No computers with an Internet connection in their rooms!" The computer should be out in a visible exposed public place where they can't sneak around because they can never tell when someone might peek around the corner.
Problem solved...
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Re:The real issue is missed here (Score:5, Insightful)
How about somehow raising kids so that they aren't stupid as rocks?!?!?
I mean, c'mon...what happened to kids? When I was raised, of course, no internet, but, there were physical tricks I was warned against. No talking to strangers...don't get in a strange car, stay around with friends when out, etc. And I was smart enough as a kid to not do stupid things. What happened to that? After I was in like 3rd grade, my Mom went back to work. I could easily walk home 'alone' from school, and not get into trouble. I knew where the handgun in the house was, and could use it...but, I had the fear of God put into me not to even think of touching it unless I was home alone and threatened by someone possibly breaking in, etc...(which almost did happen once, but, another story).
But, really...when did kids become so stupid, as to run to meet someone in another state just due to a chatroom meeting? I dunno what the deal is? Are there more pervs. out there enticing children? I guess it is possible, but, I kinda doubt it...it is just more publicized more. Those 24/7 news networks have to pump something out on slow news days.
I dunno, I could have easily had my own private internet connection as a kid in my room, and it would have posed no danger to me. I'd probably have been looking at nekkid chicks sure, but, that's nothing more than the skin magazines we all had back then...
So, what is the deal? Are parents raising street stupid kids? Too sheltered perhaps, and they don't know what to do when confronted with possible danger? What?
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So, what is the deal? Are parents raising street stupid kids? Too sheltered perhaps, and they don't know what to do when confronted with possible danger?
Yes.
Gen-X is the generation at fault here. They were a wonderful generation right up to the point where they began breeding. Exceptions abound, I know. I have good Gen-X friends who are great parents, and I know some Gen-X folks who are terrible.
A few years ago I did some personal research on this "phenomenon". Based on what I can gather, it happened around the late 70s and during the 80s. They had a great time, a great life. Other than the 1979 oil crisis, the Vietnam situation, Korean conflict, and
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Do you let your kids wander about unsupervised through the real world? Everyone would think you were insane if you did that.
Perhaps you should move somewhere else. I see kids all the time walking around unsupervised and I live in a major Canadian city. And yes I walked around unsupervised when I was a kid. My mom even told me that my kindergarten teacher told her NOT to walk me to school because it is unhealthy for my development. And NO I never got raped, murdered or kidnapped. If things are really that bad where you live (the US I presume), then you should move into the most isolated area you can think of, and let your childr
Not really missed. (Score:4, Insightful)
Check the stats - 98%+ of abuse cases are real world cases - not related to the internet. How many times have you heard a politician screaming about needing more funds for handling real world cases? The bill last year wanted to make data retention mandatory (to the tune of $400M+ annually) with some governmental financial support. However they vetoed the FBI request for a budget increase for the MEC department.
Even if the government could manage to exterminate every case of child abuse related to the internet, it wouldn't make a noticeable change in the amount of abuse going on. However, because it's a wild frontier that politicians can get publicity on, they scream about it like it's the end of the world. The internet is no different than the real world in terms of how to protect yourself. If parents take the time to teach their kids how to stay safe in the real world, then Internet safety is a footnote.
Committing hundreds of thousands of wasted dollars to 'make the internet safe' without also committing a proportionately larger amount of cash to the real world problem is almost criminal. It shows that the soundbytes are all people are interested in. Actual results are completely secondary to the volume of airtime and feelgood support politicians can generate by spouting off this crap.
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Trying to eyeball them 24/7 is just a mistake,
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The thing is, the availability of the media may be growing, but the number of predators is not growing exponentially. Statistically speaking, the majority of sexual crimes (including crimes against minors) are committed by people who know their victims, and in the case of crimes against children, usually involve people who have some sort of supervisory relationship with the child (e.g. a teacher, parent, guardian, etc.). This is true even when you consider internet crime, and the amount of internet crime
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When they're out of your house you have to trust whoever is in a supervisory position wherever they are - be it the bus driver, a teacher, librarian, or their friend's parent.
When your kid is at home you personally make sure they don't talk to strangers, don't see pornography, don't get stabbed, don't get kidnapped. When your kid goes to school, or over to their friend's house, you can't do that. It's up to their teachers to mak
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How so? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/To_Catch_a_Predator#Charges_Dropped [wikipedia.org]
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They still have netted more convictions than going after Facebook will.
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The change they want to see made is: get more votes by manipulating the irrational paternal instincts of their constituents.
Both parties do it. The Republicans have made it a cornerstone of their faux "family values" campaign. The Democrats (both Clinton campaigns) want to expand censorship of television and video games. Neither party has any evidence that gay rights or games causes de
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Sorry? (Score:5, Insightful)
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The argument that never ceases (Score:5, Insightful)
This is just another "think of the children" moment and will continue to inflame the debate over social networking services. There will be the chorus of "if you don't like it, don't use it" followed by "about time someone makes them clean up their act", concluded with "someone has to be held accountable".
Look people, as long as Facebook, MySpace, et. al. do not go to extraordinary lengths to screen applicants (e.g. send in a physical application form along with corroborating evidence, doing background checks), then anyone using those services takes their chances, not unlike soliciting a prostitute or buying merchandise off of eBay. If parents are so worried about their minor children using these services and falling under the thrall of malevolent lotahrios, then they need to monitor (or outright block) their children's network access and hold accountable others who might provide those services to their children.
This is like the little Dutch boy putting his finger in the dike to hold back the flood, while a 30-foot crack in the dam starts spraying water. It looks good on paper but any hardcore perv will find ways around things and keep right on doing what they do until they get arrested.
Re:The argument that never ceases (Score:5, Insightful)
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OK, it's not good to be overprotective, but these examples don't make sense. Kid Nation is a completely artificial construct that I don't think has been done anywhere else, and IIRC, Lord of the Flies is total fiction, not even a wild exaggeration of on a true story.
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Lord of the Flies is total fiction, not even a wild exaggeration of on a true story.
Lord of the flies was based on a number of different experiences the author had. The author was a teacher, and he didn't much like the way kids where idealized in books. The characterizations in the novel and the way they interacted with each other where based on his experience of being a kindergarten teacher. Children he found where not just Cherubic innocents.
The novel was also based on the historical episode of how a country isolated itself from the rest of the world and treated it's people (i.e. Nazi G
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Apparently we need to protect children from European soft-core porn too.
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The problem is when government gets involved with internet sites, the government forgot that companies have the option to move overseas. There is no need for a brick and mortar locations to be in one nation or another. The reason Myspace and Facebook reside in the US now was because their creators lived in the US and found it convenient to create and maintain said sites in the US.
However, if laws made i
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Yes, but you're asking Facebook to do this... which is kind of like putting Barney Fife into "Die Hard" and expecting the same results. You can't stop the pervs from thinking their thoughts and don't think for a second that if they had their access cut off to Facebook, they'd suddenly be out of the child loving business -- they'd just get out their trench coats and bags of candy and head back to the streets. At least then the cops might have a better shot at them.
Just how stupid are young folk these days? (Score:5, Insightful)
So whose fault is it, would you say? Parents, for not teaching their children these basic things about the Internet (i.e. they only know as much as you tell them) or is it the kid's fault for being a complete moron?
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Seriously though, even THAT is too much sometimes. We travel the net under pseudonyms for a reason. Maybe it's because we think that's the name that identifies us better than "Robert Smith of Salt Lake City" or maybe it's because we want a little ambiguity to our actions online. When you're at a party and give your name and number to a girl, you give it to THAT girl and no one else (one can assume). A chat room or social web site is different, you yell it out to the whole room, but in this case the
The easiest person to fool.... (Score:2)
that is all
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That is all.
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For instance years back I wound up urgently needing to get ahold of an online friend. I only knew his first name (a common one... Bryan), but I also knew the IP addresses that he'd used over the past couple months (we were both semi-admins on the same site). Me and another online friend spent a couple hours, did a bit of social engineering (none of the illegal kind), and obtained his full name, address, and phone number.
It doesn't take much to
As long as there are anonymous cowards... (Score:2)
Re:As long as there are anonymous cowards... (Score:5, Funny)
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Surprising (Score:2)
From what I can discern, Facebook offers users the ability of removing one's own account from all searching. You may opt to only be contacted by your friends. To everyone else, you shouldn't even exist. Therefore, if you do NOT want that "local NYC" man contacting you then do NOT make him your friend (despite the fact that he may have poked you a couple dozen times).
I would not consider it necessa
playing to the audience (Score:3, Insightful)
Generally they are responding to a perceived level of concern from members of the public. This may come to them directly (unlikely) or through focus-groups/media reports or just hearsay from their staff.
This means they feel they should do something, just to show they're on the case and to stop any possibility that their opponents can make political capital out of it. As a consequence they have no real idea of what can be done - or even have any first-hand experience of the websites they're attacking.
The best things the site owners can do is to nod gravely, agree that there are bad people about. State that they have state-of-the-art protections in place and that they spend $Xmillion per year "protecting" people.
Until there is a reliable way of identifying the baddies just by what they type, they'll always be open to this type of criticism and can not otherwise address it.
Stay safe, act sensibly, watch your kids -they're your responsibility
New Facebook App: Your Papers, Sir (Score:3, Interesting)
Not identity, TRUST.
As in, you can't send me an email unless someone *I* know vouches for you. Or someone they know, etc., with degrees of separation up to my level of comfort.
I don't need to know you personally (or even know your real name) to trust you as someone who won't spam me, and I can probably trust your trusted contacts as well. With 3-4 degrees of separation, the people allowed to contact me via IM, email, telephone, etc. would likely include almost EVERYONE who would legitimately need to contact me, while including no spammers.
Sure, social engineering is always possible with such a system, but if my buddy Joe (or his buddy Frank) is an idiot and has a habit of trusting spammers, I should simply be able to mark him as "untrustworthy."
Now, how does this apply to the TERRORIST-PREDATOR-HACKER problem?
First off, predators are experts at social engineering, and even full government vetting would only prevent *registered* predators from obtaining accounts, not the ones who've never been caught. We can't even get the terrorist no-fly database right, so I have ZERO confidence that social networks could ever be predator-free.
So, for your children's accounts, use the trust system to your advantage by only marking yourself and other trusted adults/groups as contacts that can either contact your kid directly or that can be used as trust verification contacts. Doesn't solve the uncle/teacher/priest problem, but should be a perfectly reasonable way to keep your kids from being contacted by people you don't know.
Sales/support people? (Score:2)
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Why would any business need to send an email? When most right-thinking people just block it anyway?
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I legitimately need to contact you to say you're wrong.
Remember When... (Score:4, Insightful)
It was a college rite of passage. Hey you got a [name]@[college].edu address? You can get on facebook! It allowed us to organize, link, and share information on the latest changes on our friends and where the next House-Party-To-Be-Busted would be. It was like an invasion of privacy and our "Check out me doing beer pong AND IM 19" pictures when employers began snooping around. Myspace for the masses. Facebook for the collegiate elite.
Then they opened it up. HIGH SCHOOLERS! Aw crap. Well there goes the site. But the new freshmen had fun. They could link and get in to their old circles in HS. Life settled in to the "new" site.
Then they opened it to specific "work" networks. Again the college students complained but hey now the alumni could say connected. So we let it go.
Then the worst thing of all. EVERYONE! Are you breathing? You can have a facebook account. And thus the "cool" site became the new predator site. LOCK IT DOWN! Those days of "hey i haven't seen them in over a year since that one class" disappeared. Now you have to be friends to see other profile. Believe me, we now have speakers come in and tell us that employers are trolling and so are the colleges. Facebook died a slow death. Sure we still use it and my campus (KSU) has an average daily use of 2 hours per student (someone has got to be throwing that number) but its not the same. It really is the new stalker net.
BTW. WHY are parents letting their 13 year olds on a site like this?
Does anyone have a doubt? (Score:2)
Myspace == Facebook? (Score:2)
Am I wrong in my assertions or is it that Facebook is just going down the tubes? I don't really use it that much so I don't know.
Well, I have a MySpace account (Score:2)
Maybe MySpace was like that once, but I think the grown-ups are starting to discover that it's good for things like "networking" and keeping up with friends that have dispersed all over the place.
Comma Usage (Score:2)
It might be a good idea, to let somebody, else proofread your essay before publishing, it on a site with thousands, of readers.
We are the wrong sex to understand (Score:5, Interesting)
Slashdots population is male, the number of females can be counted on the fingers of a clumsy lumberjack. As such it is hard for us to understand just how often females are the subject of sexual advances. I as a male can open a facebook page and never ever get an invititation for anything. A female only has to give the barest hint that she is female and BAM, she is hit upon.
Most recent example was in a MMORPG raid, I let it slip that our raid leader has a sexy voice, she does, as a motivation to get people to use voice chat. Oh boy. MISTAKE!
That was followed by a rather lengthy lecture by her and another friend on the realities of being a female in this world. I am old enough to know about cramps and lots of other stuff I think should be on a need to know basis (hint, I don't need to know) but they shocked me by just how constant and unrelenting it is. We all know about the teacher who offers better grade for eheh, homework. But as males we think that is something funny, but also rare. They both claimed that it was not, that on a night out it was not uncommon for them to be approached for sex for money. That if it becomes known in a game they are females they ALWAYS get hit upon. Sometimes perfectly nice, sometimes a bit too much and at times pure abuse but most important ALWAYS.
But there are slashdot females here, and they can no doubt better describe it, my point is that we as males cannot really judge just how much of a problem this is. Because what was also clear is that it is not the majority of men who harass, unless you yourselve are one of the people who prey on teens you just can't understand how constant the treath is.
Young girls are also vulnerable, not all, but some are in desperate need for anyone to give them attention and the predators out there are casting a wide enough net they will find some poor girl (or even boy) who is receptive. Again this is not something men can understand. If you as a teenage boy had a older female who wished to initiate you in the pleasures of love, you would have thanked god on your bair knees. You would have been a stud. When a few years ago that story broke about the highschooler and female teacher, who among us didn't think, "wish I had a teacher like that".
With social networking sites we have created spot where vulnerable people can expose themselves in an extremely direct manner to those who wish to take advantage of them, in total privacy.
Chat up a teen at my sportclub and you will get yourselve thoroughly beaten up. Do it online, and who is to know.
What I want to make clear is that it is NOT something we as males can accurately judge, if you really want to know, try finding a female in your circle of friends who has an account on such a site and ask to read the responses she gets. I read the logs she had of an old WoW session. I wouldn't say I was shocked but if you get pissed of at goldspammers, you ain't see nothing yet. She and I think other girls are there in game to play a game, not to get hit up on. It wasn't even the abuse or hatred that was shocking, but just how constant it was.
Women don't mind if you look at their tits, they take pride in them, they want to be sexy. What women object to is that men ONLY ever look at their tits. ALL men ALL the time.
Social networking sites remove even the most basic controls of civilized society, you can see this in the catch-a-predator series, perfectly normal men (hetero males are attracted to young females, it is nature, if you are not, you are gay) who know they shouldn't be doing this can't seem to resist. On the other hand we got young kids (not just girls are preyed upon) some of them vulnerable, all without any supervision of any sort. Problems are bound to occur.
Are they worse then what happened in earlier days? I remember a faint story from my childhood about a gym instructor who was let go. We got warnings about strange men hanging around the school, so it is nothing new. BUT I was also male. Those warnings didn't really apply to me, bu
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I question how well-documented this is, do you have a citation for this?
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Total misuse of statistics. Specifically, you did it BACKWARDS
What the statistics say is this:
1. MOST (as in about 80%) of people convicted of child molestation charges NEVER do it again. This compares with an estimated 50% repeat offense for other crimes. That is, someone arrested for car theft is 50% likely to get arrested for car theft again, but someone arrested for child molestation is only 20% likely to do it again.
2. However, there is a SMALL percentage of child molesters that are 'addicted' to it. Those child molesters do it so often that 50% of all child molestations are done by repeat offenders.
This is VERY VERY important. It eliminates the foolish view that "they are all uncurable" That is wrong, 80% never do it again. It is only a small percentage of people that are 'uncurable'. But those that are uncurable will do it a LOT.
The proper logical way to do the laws is "Three strikes you are out." Zero tollerrance crap just does not work well.
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It is however a popular misconception.
The acutal statistics show that 80% of people arrested for child molestation are NEVER arrested for child molestation again. Only about 20% are repeat sexual molesters. Another 22% or or so were arrested for violent crime but not child molestation (for some reason or other, after spending years in jail, with a child molestation credit on your rap sheet, you are more likely to get into fights...)
The reason why people think most offenders can