How To Balance Life And Technology For Kids? 425
brs165 writes "Being a newly minted geek father as of 4 months ago, I've thought about problems I've never had reason to consider before. One issue which I'd like to hear from the ./ crowd is introducing technology to their children. What got me thinking about this was a blog post about 'Nature-Deficit Disorder', and I think it brings up some good points. I grew up playing in the local woods and creek with minimal tech until our first computer when I was 13. I hear stories from coworkers how some of their kids/grandkids hating going outside because it is boring and they'd rather stay indoors. Should I avoid introducing them to technology until absolutely neccessary, or is it a matter of achieving a balance?"
Simple... (Score:4, Funny)
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Re:Simple... (Score:4, Insightful)
Of course, the usual parental concerns of child safety, exposure to inappropriate content, etc., also come into play according to the parents' values.
Re:SimPark + the real thing (Score:2, Insightful)
Not really....I played games consoles all the time as a young lad. I didn't really start using a PC for anything more than games until I was...13, maybe. I'm now 20, at a university with a very good CS program, with hopes of going into the games industry. I don't really see why you shouldn't let them play consoles. They're fun, and in
Re:SimPark + the real thing (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:SimPark + the real thing (Score:5, Funny)
Sure you have, dude...sure you have.
Re:SimPark + the real thing (Score:4, Insightful)
I couldn't agree more. If you want your kids to enjoy the out doors, then take them there. Go to the beach, go camping. Go play sports with them. And have a good time while you're doing it. Make that the reward, and the computer something to do in the meantime.
Re:Simple... (Score:3, Funny)
And did you stop and think that maybe infants need darkness? That maybe darkness is part of their natural development.
Your influence is the number one thing (Score:5, Insightful)
But the real thing is: Your kid(s) will be into whatever you're into. If all you do is stay inside with the XBox and plasma TV, don't be surprised if that's all they ever want to do. For Father's Day (in the US) today, I took the boys on a bike ride, then we did waste a beautiful summer afternoon in the movie theater watching Ep 3.
Always look for ways to re-live your youth with them: Legos, Star Wars, bike riding, snow forts, adventures in the woods, baseball, and mindless shows on Cartoon Network all play a part. The computer is just a new element to share together.
--H
Re:Your influence is the number one thing (Score:5, Interesting)
Re:Your influence is the number one thing (Score:4, Interesting)
i think most kids WANT to play outdoors. the thing is to find something THEY like. for example if you keep trying to play baseball and the kid would really rather ride a bike, they are going to resist. kids generally have an abundance of energy and if they don't get that out, they will end up overweight and/or medicated for having no attention span in the classroom.
if the kids show too much interest in technology you can always work that into outdoor fun. something like http://www.geocaching.com/ [geocaching.com] is total nrrd fun, and requires leaving the house and poking around.
i guess as much as i was not outdoors, i was not sitting in front of video games or a computer. i was taking things apart and making things. that seems to be lost on a lot of young kids today. the nerdlier ones are more likely to be computer kids. they will look up something online instead of taking things apart to see how they work. hopefully things like Make Magazine will spark a resurgence in DIY gadgetry? that seems to be vital to mechanical creativity. it's like reading about how to ride a bike instead of getting one one and doing it.
Reality beats simulation (Score:5, Interesting)
Which kid learns more about nature? The one who goes down to the stream, falls in and gets wet and finds a few frogs hiding under some branches, or, the kid that plays magic schoolbus field trip game?
Apart from exposure to nature, there are many other things that create a real framework for kids. Yesterday we (myself, wife + kids) planted 60 trees in a grid. We used pythagoras to set things up square. We did multiplication/division etc to calculate how many rows and trees per row etc. We talked about nutrients etc as we added compost that the kids had helped to make some months ago. We talked about harvesting, pruning etc. On top of this, the kids got some exercise!
Re:Reality beats simulation (Score:2)
Re:Reality beats simulation (Score:5, Funny)
Your dogs swordfight and make mud pies? That's cool. I guess that's what mine would do if he had thumbs.
Re:Your influence is the number one thing (Score:3, Insightful)
I agree with this. Setting an example is critical. Beyond that, here are a few other tips that may work, though I doubt there's any one-size-fits-all wisdom in this business:
Re:Your influence is the number one thing (Score:2)
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Re:Your influence is the number one thing (Score:5, Insightful)
1) Buy a GPS. Go geocaching. Plenty of geekiness, plenty of outdoors. Can also use this on trips and to go exploring. Also could teach them to navigate/hike. (Cheaper alternative: Map and compass).
2) Take your kids to the local airport to watch planes take off and land. Plenty of geeky stuff but they're getting out and learning. (Could preface this with showing them how hard it is to fly real aircraft ala MSFS2004).
3) Research and buy a telescope or if you can't afford a decent one good binoculars. Again plenty of outdoors adventure, and lots of learning, while still being true to the geek in you
4) Buy them a microscope and go collecting specimens with them. Some time indoors and some time outdoors. A good mix.
5) Remote control cars/boats/planes are great hobbies that get you out and about.
6) Take them out on a boat. Teach them about different aspects of steering a small craft etc.
7) Birdwatching. Buy a good birdwatcher's book and get them to identify the local birds. Then plan trips to see others.
8) Take them to your local zoo. Don't just walk around like a schmuck. Get them to learn about animal behviours, identification, classification etc. If you can't afford the zoo or a local wildlife park, even a duck pond will do.
All of these things cost money, but then since when do gadgets not cost money???
Point is if you think the real world is boring compared to the computer, you just haven't been out in the real world enough. There is SO much out there. Most of the things you had as a kid are still out there.
Re:Your influence is the number one thing (Score:4, Insightful)
10) Let them help you with home repairs.
11) Teach them how to raise cool plants
social evolution (Score:5, Funny)
Kids raised indoors on computers will adapt better than their parents to a career in cubicle indenture.
-kgj
Re:social evolution (Score:2)
Re:social evolution (Score:5, Funny)
Besides, everyone knows that nature sucks. That's why we pave shit.
Re:social evolution (Score:2, Insightful)
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I used to think so. It seemed like everything was gearing our kids for a job on the lunar research colony. After 10 hours in the research cube, they could retire to the "living": cube and play Doom, golf or interactive porn. Instant and microwaved food. Life under artificial light.
But lately I sense that the future doesn't feel that progressive. Maybe learning to spear a carp and skin a rat has val
Non-progressive future food (Score:3, Insightful)
the future is here (Score:2)
Agreed. The future is here, and for some people -- the New Poor, to borrow John Brunner's phrase -- it sucks worse than ever.
-kgj
sarcasm + irony = ? (Score:2)
I actually intended half-sarcasm, half-irony. Perhaps I shaved it a bit close to the bone
-kgj
Hold off on the tech. (Score:2, Insightful)
Re:Hold off on the tech. (Score:2)
Nostalgia for the simplicity of childhood is what an adult feels when he contrasts his present life with his memories (which have often been filtered over the years anyway), not what kids feel at the time. You didn't suddenly become less happy as a kid when you discovered Nintendo, did you?
I have a younger brother who loves TV, PlayStation, and horrible RPGs on his computer. He also loves archery and baseball. I say you shoul
Re:Hold off on the tech. (Score:4, Interesting)
But couldn't you have said the same thing 50 years ago about different technologies? "Take away the bicycles, radios, BB guns, baseball bats, and mass-produced comic books, and what are kids left doing? Nothing."
Kids have always used objects to entertain themselves - they're usually called toys. Sitting around reading comics or novels wasn't any better than sitting around playing Halo, but even video games today can exercise your body as well as your mind (see Dance Dance Revolution).
But I think the premise here is flawed to begin with. We don't have to worry about what kids might have if we took away all their modern technology, because they do have modern technology. Feel free to point out problems with their use of it, but at least stay focused on the world we live in. Even if we're going to posit a situation where a kid who's used to playing Xbox all day is forced to do without--to go live on a desert island or something--entertainment should be the least of our concerns. We might as well ask how he's going to keep warm without all those new-fangled jeans and T-shirts.
The dot slash crowd? (Score:2)
This ain't the dot slash crowd. You're in the wrong place.
Thank goodness for editors, right?
Re:The dot slash crowd? (Score:2, Funny)
Technology is not a substitute (Score:2, Insightful)
In my opinion, children should be introduced to as much as the world has to offer. The problems occur when parents sit a child in front of a television or a computer and say "here, entertain yourself."
These are the kids that grow up with technology as a substitute for guidance. They will obviously become attached.
Moderation and interaction are the key.
Balance? Ha. Who needs it? (Score:2, Insightful)
Toys that run on kid-power (Score:4, Interesting)
There's a reason why they'd rather play with the box than the toy. Respect and support that creativity.
Balanced upbringing.. (Score:2)
balance but importantly "who they are" (Score:2, Informative)
We have Windows,OSX and Linux and they all have easy access to them when and if they want. I love it when the 8 year old can jump on the Mac and do what they want, and same for the eldest too.
Only the Playstation gets *too* much attention from the teenage boys so I kick them out into the sunshine if I think they're been on too long.
It all works out and even for the you
moderation (Score:2)
OMG that means ... (Score:5, Funny)
way to go
Re:OMG that means ... (Score:2)
Not necessarily. They could be adopted or stepkids.
Re:OMG that means ... (Score:5, Funny)
He's geek, so naturally he cloned himself instead adopting.
Or... (Score:2)
Re:OMG that means ... (Score:4, Funny)
Get out - together with the kids. (Score:2, Informative)
Hey, it didn't harm me (Score:2, Funny)
Wait, what's this "real life" you speak of?
Strike a balance, but don't hold things back (Score:2)
First off... (Score:5, Interesting)
Once you wrap your mind around that, you can start to prepare yourself to teach them to deal with those things on a rational level.
You're thinking ahead, at least, and that's the first step to success. Good luck, you'll need it.
Pete (father of 8)
Full access but emphasize activity (Score:2)
I would say, focus on activity and creativity, with the computer thrown in as an occasional diversion.
How to do that? I don't know. I Am Not A Parent (IANAP)
Try to keep them balanced (Score:2, Interesting)
Re:Try to keep them balanced (Score:2)
get them outdoors (Score:5, Insightful)
DO: get them outside, go canoeing, biking, hiking, walking, skiing, camping, exploring, build and launch model rockets (please, lauch outside), build a treehouse... If you must involve technology, bring a GPS and a digital camera (but don't forget a map and compass - be sure they know how to use those when the GPS batteries die). While you are out there, talk to them abou the plants species, the mountains, how the compass works, how the water flows around the canoe and what make the bike stable while it is moving.
What did you enjoy doing outside as a kid? Why not try that? If they enjoy it too, that's great - you are doing somehting you enjoy outside, and your kids are there and having fun too!!
Is it possible for you to even raise your kids without a TV? I can certainly live without a TV (over a year now, almost 3 years depending on how you count it).
DO NOT: buy a Nintendo/PS3/XBox and let the toy babysit the kids for you. People at Slashdot will expel the virtues of how they learned problem solving and "other skills" while playing video games. Well, I learned a few German words playing a foreign game, and picked up some geography from Civ3, but try and keep the video games to a minimum.
Being a parent is an active responsibility (but it can be fun). Just be sure you go exploring. If you are having fun, they probably will be too. If the kids look forward to going biking with dad more than sitting in front of the boob-tube playing Mari Kart 12, you are doing your job well! If they hear "Dad's home, and were building rockets tonight!" and drop the video game in the middle of a game to join you, you are doing great!
Re:get them outdoors (Score:2)
You are the Dad, you are the leader. If you start leading them on hiking trips when they are young, and share the beauty of the outdoors with them, maybe they will enjoy that and stick to it. If they are doing something great (maybe they want to join some outdoors club or something) and you like it, then encourage them and support them.
If you do nothing, they will find something to do. And that may very well be playing the same video-games the kids next door are playing.
Re:get them outdoors (Score:2)
Just a heads-up: it isn't pure gyroscopic stabilization. It's a feedback loop with the rider, due to the offset nature of the front fork. Turning into the falling side will produce a centripetal force away from the fall. Try to ride the bike in a straight line without moving your body or handle bars; you'll fall. Gyroscopic force does help a little because tilting the wheel will make it twist into the turn, providing a little compensation. That's why you can rid
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Some thoughts (Score:4, Insightful)
It's probably a better idea to introduce your kids to computers and all that early on. Compare it to the TV - your kids are most likely going to be allowed to watch TV before they're 14 (or whatever), but that doesn't mean you'll allow them to do it for eight hours each day without checking *what* they watch.
Do give them limits; enforce them, but don't be arbitrary. Above all, make them transparent and understandable - if you tell your kids that they can use the computer, but for an hour only, that's much better than only coming in after an hour and telling them that they have to stop *now*.
Don't give them a bad example; if you don't do anything except sit at the computer (or, more generally, stay indoors) all day, then your kids *will* question why it's bad for them if it obviously isn't bad for you, too.
That's about what I can think of right now. As a disclaimer, though, I don't have kids myself.
Re:Some thoughts (Score:3, Insightful)
It's obvious that computers are here to stay, if you keep them luddites until they are 15, they'll be somewhat crippled in their ability to use computers for the rest of their life, in the same way that non-native speakers are rarely able to achieve quite the same level of language proficiency and accent as natives. And if they do, it comes at the expense of gre
four months (Score:2)
I didn't start until I was 10 (Score:2)
both (Score:2)
I remember going out to the desert to go stargazing and learing how to use a compass and read a topographic map. These days, with GPS, satellite maps and a host of other gadgets, there's more than enough to combine geek culture with the great outdoors.
I don't think I've ever met a kid who wasn't fascinated by a really cool telescope.
Old quote.. (Score:2)
Re:Old quote.. (Score:3, Interesting)
Yes. (Score:2)
'Technology' is not a synonym for 'computers'.
Blend... (Score:2)
net = porn (Score:2)
When used as a tool... (Score:2)
We have a drawing tablet and Disney's Magic Artist drawing program, and my daughter loves to draw with it. She can just hit a little spot on the table to fire up the program, and she's in.
I got one of the USB microscopes, and we look at leaves, seeds, insects, etc. with it. I run the software, but let them place the stuff on the tray and move the magnification around.
I don'
Give your kids a dog! (Score:2)
Dogs v. Nature (Score:4, Insightful)
Pets are more of a consumer product than they are an introduction to nature.
I've spent most of my life without a dog. Coco [protophoto.com] showed up on the porch a year and a half ago. I take her on regular walks in the mountains. It is freightening the amount of destruction I see being done by dogs.
In a discussion on the value of pets. Yes, kids and dogs are a great combination. However, pets are about the domination of animals. Taking Coco on trips into the mountains, I am now starting to see the extent to which dogs dominate recreation and the affect that they have on the diminishing nature around us.
In other words, you should only have a dog if you really, really want to have a dog. You should only have a dog if you are wanting a pet to be a primary focus of your recreation time.
You should budget two grand a year for dog care and food, and plan to spend a great deal of time with it.
Coco showed up on my porch because a family with two sons bought a puppy as a consumer product, and found out that dogs are a big hassle.
Huh (Score:5, Funny)
Get a tivo... (Score:2)
On the plus side, you should get in the habit of time shifting your TV watching.
it's a tool (Score:2)
More than balance - life is more than Nature/Tech (Score:3, Insightful)
Pretty soon they will tell you what they are interested in, yet keep pushing them in many directions they will continue to discover things they like and develop many talents.
Point is, you only get one shot, so introduce your kids to everything you can. They will thank you for it later.
When my first was five months old ... (Score:2)
The baby soon got the hang of thumping the keyboard with her fist and knowing that changing the colour and playing the music was under her control!
Much of this is nothing new (Score:2)
So think hard: How did you parents handle it? Are you glad they did it that way? Then follow their example. If not? Learn from their mistakes. (Just don't overcompensate by making them live like Amish kids. By the time they grow up enough to appreciate it, you'll be dead.)
My advice... (Score:2)
Push them outdoors and do it soon (Score:2)
I grew up in a very rural area (father born in a log cabin, fifteen miles from my home to the nearest stop light, etc) and I'd rather be outside as long as the weather is decent. My ex is a Jewish American princess and her idea of camping out is the Marriott without room service. Funny demographics, eh?
We live in a small metro area (500k people). When my son was old enough to walk a few hundred yards without whining too much I'd take him to a local park. I mean a park, with unmown grass as tall as he
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I have this disorder. (Score:2)
I read this and thought "Man, I didn't know Amazon bought a rain forest! Good ol' Bezos."
Seriously though, if this is a grave enough concern that you need to ask current-directory, you should move to Seattle immediately. Or Vancouver. Or Portland.
We have mountains, and beaches (heh), and bike trails galore. No one fears the West Nile. We drive Subarus to take our dogs to the dog parks. When friend
New Geek Father (Score:2)
Well happy Father's Day [joyoftech.com]
Move somewhere where they *can* play outside (Score:2)
Now I live in "Silicon Valley", in an apartment complex. It is shocking for me to imagine, all the kids that live around here have no place to play outside. Yeah there are city parks, but that's really not the same.
So, now that I have a 1-year-old son, my wife and I are moving to New Hampshire. Actually, we move in
I'm not a Dad... (Score:2)
So I'm not even going to try and pretend I know anything about parenting from a Father's point of view. I'll just say what my parents did.
When I was very young - 1-3 years - I was encouraged to read. Mum did this by reading me stories, pointing out the words, saying them slowly, and sometimes prompting me to either read or recall from memory what the next word was.
At about 3, 3 and a half, my family got a Vic 20, and purely because of the fact that Dad wasn't "computer-minded" and Mum was only margin
KPotato on Fedora 3 (Score:2)
I did think about KBattleship, but then decided on a more pacifist approach. Maybe chess as she grows older.
Humorous anecdote... (Score:2)
I went to lunch at a greasy spoon diner with three other network admin buddies. The four of us were in a booth and sitting behind me was a mother with her three-year-old son. The boy s
it's not about avoiding, it's about introducing (Score:2)
Just don't over analyze or stress about it. Parents today (myself included) try too hard to "program" their kids for success. You have no idea what success will
Outside during the day, technology at night (Score:2)
She also digs video games...this is where Nintendo is a real winner with us, because Zelda/Wind Waker was just her speed; she loves just sailing the boat on the water, watching the world go by...
But the point of all this is that we do all this during the early morning hours, or at night. During the day I
What? (Score:2)
Don't buy into the fear! (Score:5, Insightful)
My wife won't allow our daughter to play outside unless she can physically see her the whole time because she is sooo worried about "pedophiles". Totally insane.
Also, I've noticed that my kid has her own personality and interests. You will need to become interested in things that interest your child as well as sharing your interests with him or her.
Balance (Score:5, Insightful)
You put it right.
Balance
Be there for them! (Score:5, Insightful)
I know.
I'm talking from experience. I grew up without having a father I could talk to...
thoughts from a teacher (Score:3, Insightful)
Anyways, take them fishing, hunting, skiing, etc. Have them play sports, read books, write poetry. Whatever. Teach them to cook. The technology we need is an MRI in a hospital not an Xbox in the living room. My dad is 67 or something. He never touched a computer until he reitred a few years ago. Now, he uses the computer like a pro.
And since this is father's day (btw, I have three myself), the best you thing you can do is be their father. Whatever you have to do is not more important than them. I'm 36 and still fish with my old man. There's a reason. Buy him a hundred books, read a hundred books to him, take him to a hundred ball games, take him fishing a hundred times, play a hundred games of candyland (or whtever game), do a hundred other things a hndred times before you buy him a computer.
Re:First Post? (Score:2, Funny)
You see son, since your birthday is in early March, you're a Pisces. Today is a 1 star day for you, meaning you should stay inside and play xBox, rather than flirt with the girl next door...
Re:First Post? (Score:2)
Don't forget a tripod. It doesn't matter how your binoculars are if the view
Re:Nature/Tech (Score:2)
Re:Nature/Tech (Score:3, Insightful)
Think about it, many of us didn't have all of these technological toys when we were little, and we seemed to adapt just fine. Computer usage isn't some sort of esoteric skill that requires years of training to ma
Re:Nature/Tech (Score:5, Funny)
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Yeah, you have to keep the skill cap in mind. Multi-classing sucks because then your kid only advances levels half as fast.
Re:Speaking as one of these kids... (Score:2, Interesting)
I literally grew up on those shows. I basically watched only PBS. Now I just watch Discovery Channel.
I spend most of my time in my room on the computer when not at school. However I do get outside. I bike to school. I volunteer at the local theatre, so I am not inside all the time. I have been under limits, but they just don't work. I mean, I had all ready been on the computer for hours before so imposing limits would be stupid. Like the parent said
Re:My Perspective On the Whole Thing (Score:2)
How old are you: 2 or 3?
Re:My Perspective On the Whole Thing (Score:2)
Re:No Tech Until 6 (Score:3, Interesting)
I have an eidetic memory, and have never been accused of being dumb. In school, the only thing I was ever accused of, actually, was being incredibly arrogant, because it took embarrassingly long for me to realise that other kids didn't like me pointing out how I was smarter than them.
I'd really like to find out what study that is, because I have had technology around me all my life. Literally, all my life. I started