Flawed Online Dating Bill Being Pushed in New Jersey 192
Billosaur writes "According to a report on Ars Technica, a committee of the New Jersey Assembly is trying to push an on-line dating bill even though it contains significant flaws. The Internet Dating Safety Act would require dating web sites that interact with customers in New Jersey to indicate whether they do criminal background checks and if people who fail such checks are still allowed to register with the site. 'The backers of the New Jersey Internet Dating Safety Act undoubtedly feel that the law provides at least a measure of protection despite its flaws. In this case, however, users of such sites are probably better off assuming that their personal safety remains a personal responsibility, rather than placing faith in a background check that has little chance of uncovering any information on a person attempting to hide it.'"
Backed by a online dating company? (Score:3, Informative)
Re:Backed by a online dating company? (Score:5, Insightful)
I mean...what's the difference in where you meet and try to find people? What makes internet dating inherently more dangerous than dating in meatspace? Are we doing to be required to carry out background checks with us on our papers as well as our identifying information....oh wait...RealID....?
Seriously, I don't see the difference....no matter where you try to go to interact with people, you have to have some discretion in who you trust and go out with...
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I always knew there was something fishy about Count Chocula...
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Other New Jersey Legislation (Score:5, Funny)
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That would be useless in Illinois, where businesses would automatically have to say "yes". Our last Governor is in prison... [wikipedia.org]
-mcgrew
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Can you get a business in NJ if you don't?
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Depending what the definition of "ties" happens to be just about any business will have some connection, just by virtue of doing business and especially if they pay any kind of taxes.
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2. The website should tell you to use common sense. (i.e., chat online before speaking on the phone; speak a lot before agreeing to meet; meet somewhere public the first few times; meet their friends and family and see if they look normal. remember if you marry someone you're marrying their family, and if their family is psycho, chances are they are psycho too, even if they behave normal for a while).
3. The website should detail if background checks are done and if so, which ones.
4. It doesn't require a state law to deal with the problem of background checks.
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Is that the voice of experience I hear?
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SLASHDOT DISCLAIMER: IN COMPLIANCE WITH NEW JERSEY PENAL CODE 15-1302, SLASHDOT HAS PERFORMED ALL REQUIRED CRIMINAL BACKGROUND CHECKS ON USER FROBOZ23, WHOSE LEGALLY REGISTERED NAME IS ENGELBERT HUMPERDINCK. IN 1996, THIS PERSON HAD NON-CONSENTING SEXUAL RELATIONS WITH AN AQUATIC MAMMAL, A CLASS 12 FELONY. OH, AND THERE WAS ALSO THAT J-WALKING TICKET BACK IN '92. FOR SHAME. IF YOU INSIST ON MEETING WITH THIS VILE, NASTY PERSON, WE RECOMMEND YOU MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE. PRE-PLAN YOUR ESCAPE ROUTES, AND BRING A HIGH-CALIBER WEAPON, JUST IN CASE.
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Common sense does not apply "online".
Everything is different, and there needs to be new laws when something is "online".
OK, enough with the sarcasm, but WTF is up with an online dating bill? Singles bars don't do background checks. Neither do the personals in the newspaper. I would assume that things like magazines that are dedicated to "alternate" lifestyles, swinging, wife-swapping, and every fetish you could imagine don't do background checks. Lots of people meet people at work and school, and most employers and schools don't do background checks.
So, why is this so important when the "online" keyword is added?
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Everything is different, and there needs to be new laws when something is "online".
OK, enough with the sarcasm, but WTF is up with an online dating bill?
"hammer" meet "nail head"
Singles bars don't do background checks. Neither do the personals in the newspaper. I would assume that things like magazines that are dedicated to "alternate" lifestyles, swinging, wife-swapping, and every fetish you could imagine don't do background checks.
What about "dating agenci
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PARENT IS SPAM TRAP. WATCH OUT. (Score:2, Informative)
Think of the Avatars (Score:2)
unnecessary ultima joke (Score:2, Funny)
Ask him to bring you the Codex of Ultimate Wisdom?
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Poor Aang, that seems very unfair to him.
Chris Mattern
Legislation pushed by True.com? (Score:5, Interesting)
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Re:Legislation pushed by True.com? YEP! (Score:3, Interesting)
In the end though, the bill was very quickly, and very literally, laughed out of committee. I kind of felt bad for t
Criminal Background Checks! (Score:4, Funny)
Everything seems to be in order here
Re:Criminal Background Checks! (Score:4, Funny)
two sides on the coin... (Score:2)
ex:
If user X has a bad criminal record, user Y won't trust user X
does not imply
If user X does NOT have a criminal record, user Y won't NOT trust user X
the logic for the opposition is just as flawed as the logic of the argument. Add to that the fact that people who are wary now will probably remain wary even with the background check, it just makes things easier to increase the list of untrastables, this bill really amounts to telling a custom
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I simply stated that there would be (at least) a minimal security improvement, and that many users wouldn't get a false sense of security (except those who wouldn't bother listening to a sense of insecurity anyway)
Ridiculous Law (Score:5, Insightful)
1. The Article states that it's not even a true background check (it's a name check only -- so, it's essentially worthless anyway)
2. Users should bare the responsibility of checking out their own dates, not the site
If anything, the state should only require the dating sites to offer a full background screening service for a reasonable price. That way, the user can check out their dates, plus the dating site isn't forced to do a background check on everyone, plus the site can still make a profit which is what the site is there for in the first place.
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Perhaps you should RTFA... (Score:3, Informative)
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Ignoring the Freudian typo, it seems amazing to me that anyone would think it was a good idea to attempt to spend quality time alone with a complete stranger: If you're in a public place, it's about as safe as any other activity. If there are no witnesses, or you're relying on the stranger's car to get to or from said public place, it's not. This is true of any first date, no matter how you met them. Early dates give you a ch
What about the fatties? (Score:5, Insightful)
Re:What about the fatties? (Score:5, Funny)
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Yea..but... (Score:2)
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What's next, a flawed offline dating bill? (Score:3, Funny)
What the hell (Score:3, Informative)
Re:What the hell (Obligatory) (Score:2)
There, fixed it for you. :)
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you always hear about (Score:2, Funny)
maybe new jersey (teh state that gives us the sopranos, irony) has the wrong idea. maybe the real issue here is the nugget of a new online dating business: a place for women to meet and date proven criminals, not avoid them
Re:you always hear about (Score:5, Insightful)
Distance from North Pole to Equator along earth's surface: ~10,000 km.
Distance from Earth to Sun: 150 million km.
Distance from Sun to nearest other star: 42 trillion km.
Distance from what women say they want in a man, to what they really want: farther still.
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and all texans wear cowboy hats (Score:2)
only brittle weirdos with a chip on their shoulder would have a problem with ridiculous stereotypes no one believes and have no real life consequences
did you know everyone from minnesota talks like they do in that movie "fargo"?
did you know everyone in california is a surfer dude?
please, by all means, don't let light hearted humor get in the way of y
Hide Felonies? (Score:2)
Excuse me but last time I checked it was farely easy to uncover if somebody has beem convicted of a Felony. Now, I'm not for this law. I think the websites should enforce the policy themselves without needless legislation. Also in the end the people who use the service have to take responsibility. However to make statements that background checks are useless without any facts is
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Excuse me but last time I checked it was farely easy to uncover if somebody has beem convicted of a Felony.
You're missing the point. It is fairly easy to tell if someone is convicted of a felony if you know their real name because you saw their ID. None of these dating sites are asking for ID, so they only show if the name a person put into their profile is the same name as a person with a felony conviction. Most actual criminals who know the site does such a check, will just use a different name. On the other hand, people who just happen to have the same name as a criminal, will probably have trouble using da
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They have ways of verifying identity.
There are two ways I know, existing credit card numbers and SSNs. Since most dating sites are free, people generally don't provide either and don't want to. Some states have laws that make it illegal to require a SSN in order to identify a person. For the most part, these sites just try to match the name and location with lists of felons, and using a fake name, makes the check fail, as noted by people who tested MySpace's check for felony convictions. It results in false positives and is trivial to bypass
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What's next, background checks to get into a bar? (Score:4, Insightful)
Seriously, a lot of hook-ups, meeting new people for dating, etc. happen at bars, not online. This is one of those half-baked ideas by some clueless legislators who seem to think the Internet is a scarier place than a bar.
Requiring background checks for online dating is not a realistic safeguard. People who have something to hide will figure out how to hide it, face-to-face or on the Internet. If anything, this will cause clueless daters to fall into a false sense of security by assuring them that this safety net exists when it's merely a mirage.
Re:What's next, background checks to get into a ba (Score:4, Insightful)
Seriously, have you any idea of how few people in a relationship met in bars compared to other means? Or how ubiquitous online dating services have become? This is particularly true for age ranges > 30.
Your point stands about a false sense of security. You'd think that maybe someone smart enough to go online to a dating site would be smart enough to do their own background check; the problem is that there is no assurance that the person they are checking on is actually who they say they are; the dating sites act as a vetting service -- this is what potential daters are paying for.
That said, I think the problem is that people too stupid to do their own background checks actually increase their chance of reproducing through these dating sites. This means that, from an evolutionary standpoint, they are getting some help in propagating their genes. I would like my legislator to propose legislation to ban all people too stupid to perform their own background checks from using dating sites. For the good of the species, please.
Won't someone think of the genome?
[1] Yes, I know, the 90s called, and they want their "The 80s called and want their $FOO back" joke back.
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That said, I think the problem is that people too stupid to do their own background checks actually increase their chance of reproducing through these dating sites.
Do you credit check all of your dates as well? This seem really fucking stupid. Why on earth would it matter to you. Do you really want to know everything about someone prior to even meeting them? Remember, a very large percentage of US citizens have criminal records and or previous messed up credit histories. Must be why so many here on /. have no dates, wives et al.
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But my single friends who are dating typically depend on other things to ensure their date is not a big risk. Like only dating people recommended to them by people they trust, or dating people from work for whom they already have a sense of what kind of person they are. Sure, it's not foolproof, but there is SOME kind of vetting process.
Meeting an absolute stranger on the internet and then dating them in person carries a lot of risks that can be m
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true.com (Score:5, Informative)
Who cares!? (Score:2, Insightful)
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Even requiring notification of sex offenders I'd disagree with -- it's pathetically easy to get yourself on a sex offender list. Example: walking a few steps off of the Interstate and urinating can, if the cop and judge are in bad moods, get you on such a list because you've committed the 'crime' of indecent exposure.
Perhaps if this issue was addressed (along with other pointless ones such as borderline cases of statutory rape being considered a sex crime), then I could agree with notifying of sex offend
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It apparently is better to kill a person then to be a "Peep 'n' Tom" in your book. As a murder is not subject to being a registered murder and publicly ostracized. This "sex" offender BS really needs to have some granularity or they need to make all Felony+ charges add you to a list.
And if the person DOES have a record? (Score:5, Interesting)
True but people have a right to know (Score:2)
This is stupid because there's no reason why dating sites should have to take the bu
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It sucks, but it's all about keeping yourself safe. Don't want to be a pariah? Then don't be a criminal.
Of course, the level of mistrust is based on the crime. I wouldn't let a convicted rapist date my daughter. I wouldn't let a convicted child molester babysit. I wouldn't let hire a CFO after he was convicted of embezzlement.
Does it matter to me that "they
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It's called the World Wide Web for a reason (Score:2)
That is patently unenforceable. If it was, any state could simply pass a law criminalizing websites and then start collecting money. They can require sites operated in New Jersey to abide by these laws and maybe even residents of New Jersey who operate such sites (but I
Yeah but..... (Score:2)
Criminal background checks often wrong (Score:3, Interesting)
PDFs required (Score:2)
HTML tags are advisory, and rendering them in any particular way, is totally at the browser's discretion. Looks like online dating sites aren't going to be allowed to be part of the web. ;-)
What goes through a lawmaker's mind, when he writes about typography? Is it possible to do that, and still believe that you're helping someone?
Geez, how libertarian of you... (Score:2)
Billosaur:
You're kidding me, right? The background check, conducted by some presumably reliable company, with corporate resources behind it, is unlikely to uncover any information on the potential date... but I'm going to do better my
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You're kidding me, right? The background check, conducted by some presumably reliable company, with corporate resources behind it, is unlikely to uncover any information on the potential date... but I'm going to do better myself by using "personal responsibility"?
Okay, so assume you're running a corporation and you want your users to feel safe and use your site. What is more cost effective real methods, or empty marketing? Now as your business people go to your Web page and input personal information. You have no way of checking if the information they enter, even their name is correct. What kind of background check do you think you can perform that will be effective? You don't even know the person's real name if they decide to just make up an alias.
Okay now you
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Unintended consequences (Score:2)
Where can I contribute?
one more lie (Score:2)
Are you 18 or over? > yes
Are you currently living in New Jersey? > no
One more lie stopped by regulation. (Score:2)
I liked it better... (Score:2)
COOL (Score:2)
backwards (Score:3, Insightful)
Violation of Dormant Commerce Clause (Score:2)
As with so many other state attempts to legislate what citizens can and can't do on the Internet, this one looks like it violates the Dormant Commerce Clause [wikipedia.org]. NJ is attempting to control what happens in NJ, but because this is the Internet, it affects online businesses that are operating in other states. Should an online dating outfit based in California or New York be forced to comply with NJ law? No.
It was either this bill (Score:2)
Better off hyping legislat
That's New Jersey for you (Score:2)
Re:In Soviet Russia... (Score:5, Funny)
"In Soviet Russia the state dates YOU!
That would probably be an improvement for most slashdotters, where you're more likely to be *ahem* "dating yourself ..."
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-mcgrew
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""Dating"... doesn't that mean telling how old an object, like a fossil or something, is? Carbon dating, etc?"
I for one welcome dating our carbon-based overlords.
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OK, I'm a moron.
Though the fact that I should have gone to sleep long ago may account for a part of that.
Re:What do you expect from the "tube" guys? (Score:5, Insightful)
If that is supposed to make me feel warm and fuzzy, you've done the very opposite. The people you talk about are the same ones who give you a deer-in-the-headlights look when you tell them that by putting up pictures of themselves and personal information such as where they go to school on Facebook, someone could figure out where they live.
They current crop of legislators aren't the only ones who have no idea about what the internet is.
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The internet is a little bird tweeting in meadow;
The internet is a wreath of pretty flowers which... smell bad.
Norman coordinate... beep beep beeeeeeeeee...
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There is no hope till the present day youngsters who grew up with internet and IM become the senior legislators and judges.
The people you talk about are the same ones who give you a deer-in-the-headlights look when you tell them that by putting up pictures of themselves and personal information such as where they go to school on Facebook, someone could figure out where they live.
As a 20-something who grew up with the internet and IM, I take offense to your stereotyping. It is true, many of my generation are morons. But that is true of all generations. As it turns out, half the population is above average, and the other half is stuck being below average. If a group of 25-30 year olds can attain Congressional seats in the next few years... it would be an improvement for this generation and subsequent ones.
Pertaining to the article, any legislation which attempts to make rules
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While this is OT, I'm quite tired of hearing this, so...
You are wrong.
If there are four people, and one has 1 apple and three have 100 apples, then 3 out of these 4 people have more than the average number of apples.
It is not that hard...
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A little precision when referring to technicalities never killed anyone.
The average is just the expected value, which---for extra fun---is a value one generally does not expect to see. The fact that in particular cases happens to coincide with some other parameter of the distribution does not make it correct to identify them.
This may sound anally retentive, but this is statistics we are talking about: unless you are 100% clear about what things mean, then one ends up in giant messes.
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Growing up and understanding technology aren't necessarily related. After all, the baby boomers who hold much of the political power in the United States grew up with television, cars and telephones, but relatively few know in any great detail how a TV, an internal combustion engine or a telephone network function: those who took the time to learn.
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I'm sure on a whole they don't "Get it" but I do believe most understand it better than you give them credit for.
What disturbs me is the fact that they understand the bill is flawed but want to pass it anyway because it will provide some semblance of protection... It's not the first time I've heard of a bill
Ummm, that makes no sense (Score:3, Insightful)
In the case of dating, it would be the individual you wish to date. Th