Downtown Project Suicides Shock High Tech Community 185
HughPickens.com writes Nellie Bowles writes in Recode that three of the most prominent high tech entrepreneurs involved with Tony Hsieh's project to build a startup city in Downtown Las Vegas have recently committed suicide, sending the tight-knit community into a tailspin. In January 2013, Jody Sherman, the 48-year-old founder of Ecomom, one of the most prominent Vegas tech-funded startups, shot himself while in his car. His company had been going south. In January 2014, 24-year-old Ovik Banerjee, who was part of the first Venture for America group in Vegas and an integral member of the Downtown Project team, leapt from his Town Terrace apartment in downtown. In May 2014, Matt Berman, the 50-year-old founder of Bolt Barber, the flagship shop at the center of the Container Park, was found in his home in an apparent suicide by hanging. Whether or not the suicides are statistically significant, the deaths have clearly shaken the entrepreneurs.
According to Alyson Shontell, in a social media age where word of success and failure travels fast, entrepreneurs say it's harder than ever to run a company — and it's harder than ever to fail. "It was a hell of a lot of work for not a hell of a lot of return," says Dave McClure, an investor in Ecomom and the entrepreneur behind investment firm 500Startups. "And then there are days when you sit in a corner and cry. You can't really do anything else. You don't have a social life. You don't really want to interact with family and friends because there's just not much context for them. Your world revolves around your startup and it's all about trying to survive and not look like an idiot in front of employees." "In the past, failure was very contained," another entrepreneur says. "When you failed, you felt bad around your family, the people you raised money from, but it wasn't as public. Failure in an era of social media and social video and global events is a very public thing. Jody [Sherman] put himself out there this time and became very respected for what he was doing. That possibility of very public shame is something that didn't exist before." Brad Feld writes that if you are ever considering committing suicide, reach out to someone and ask for help. "It's ok to fail. It's ok to lose. It's ok to be depressed. If you are contemplating suicide, get help. If you have an entrepreneurial friend contemplating suicide, do your best to get them help."
According to Alyson Shontell, in a social media age where word of success and failure travels fast, entrepreneurs say it's harder than ever to run a company — and it's harder than ever to fail. "It was a hell of a lot of work for not a hell of a lot of return," says Dave McClure, an investor in Ecomom and the entrepreneur behind investment firm 500Startups. "And then there are days when you sit in a corner and cry. You can't really do anything else. You don't have a social life. You don't really want to interact with family and friends because there's just not much context for them. Your world revolves around your startup and it's all about trying to survive and not look like an idiot in front of employees." "In the past, failure was very contained," another entrepreneur says. "When you failed, you felt bad around your family, the people you raised money from, but it wasn't as public. Failure in an era of social media and social video and global events is a very public thing. Jody [Sherman] put himself out there this time and became very respected for what he was doing. That possibility of very public shame is something that didn't exist before." Brad Feld writes that if you are ever considering committing suicide, reach out to someone and ask for help. "It's ok to fail. It's ok to lose. It's ok to be depressed. If you are contemplating suicide, get help. If you have an entrepreneurial friend contemplating suicide, do your best to get them help."
Suicided (Score:1)
Professional hit men kill their victims by apparent suicide or accident: overdose, auto accident, ski accident, etc.
1 or more of these could have been suicided.
Can't help but have the same thought (Score:2)
1 or more of these could have been suicided.
That seems like a fairly natural thought, doesn't it?
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In this day and age... it was the first thing that popped in my mind when you get a cluster like this.
But in the end, so many people seem to opt for suicide for reasons stemming from Facebook harassment to a failed business which tells me they are weak minded, weak willed, and frankly we are better off without them.
Re:Can't help but have the same thought (Score:4, Interesting)
In this day and age... it was the first thing that popped in my mind when you get a cluster like this.
But in the end, so many people seem to opt for suicide for reasons stemming from Facebook harassment to a failed business which tells me they are weak minded, weak willed, and frankly we are better off without them.
Ah, okay, you have stated it more plainly than in your post, above.
You reveal you are without empathy for your fellow humans. Sociopath, perhaps? You might make a good CEO.
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It seems to me that they didn't really have all that much going for them, if they didn't consider their lives precious beyond measure (as you aptly put it). I feel bad for anyone who commits or seriously contemplates suicide; it's not an enviable state of mind to be in.
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It is amusing that someone pointing the "sociopath" finger immediately switches to sociopath mode to condemn
Um, this is exactly false. I was *not* displaying the type of sociopathic thinking you continue to show. As I said, and I'll say it again, I *don't* think you should kill yourself.
:-)
Really, don't do it.
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That makes me wonder, why them and not the heads of some investment banks? Not only did they give a lot more people a reason to want them dead, it would also made a damn lot more people happy.
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http://americablog.com/2014/02... [americablog.com]
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Odd, why don't we get to hear about this?
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You've watched too many movies and/or played too many games.
Suicide my ass! (Score:4, Interesting)
You're talking about Vegas here. I seriously doubt that three guys all decided they couldn't handle the failure of a project like this.
All three methods of suicide are suspect as well.
I lived in Vegas for years and it's a really shitty town. I wouldn't be surprised at all to find some corruption behind it all that was coming to light.
Suicide? Meh...
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There is no such thing as a coincident. Need to bring in some outsiders to investigate.
Learn this. (Score:5, Informative)
Chronic stress causes overt brain damage which reduces the cerebral cortex's ability to regulate the lymbic system. When you are too stressed for too long, you literally lose emotional control. This is a fact of neurology, and has nothing to do with your mindset or strength of will.
Once this has happened, something like depression is deadly. It isn't just feeling sad; it warps your perception of reality to the point where suicide actually seems to make sense. Simple clear rational thinking stops being possible because your brain is too damaged for it, at that point. The painful muscle cramps, panic attacks, and insomnia that go along with depression only make matters worse.
Running a business, especially in this cartel-dominated economy where it is nearly impossible to get your foot in the market's door, creates precisely the sort of endless stress that will cause this.
The only good news is that the brain damage is reversible; the brain will heal itself if given enough time (measured in months) without high stress levels. But an entrepreneur scrambling to keep his (or her) company afloat will not have such an opportunity.
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[q]Once this has happened, something like depression is deadly. It isn't just feeling sad; it warps your perception of reality to the point where suicide actually seems to make sense. [/q]
I've had this.
It's a constant stream of severe negative feeling. One day, for a fraction of a second, i saw that suicide was an option for making is all stop. I'm still thankfull that i discarded that thought instantly. But i'm also still shocked that i had it in the first place.
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high tech community? (Score:5, Insightful)
How does "providing eco friendly and organic products to moms who desire an eco-conscious lifestyle for themselves and their children" amount to being a member of the "high tech community"? How does real estate development or running a barber shop make you a member of the high tech community? All these people are businessmen, and their troubles seem to be due to bad business decisions. No "high tech" involved, except perhaps that they were hoping that they could sell to "techies".
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How does ... amount to being a member of the "high tech community"?
That's a big part of the problem. These people were trying to do two things: 1) Start a business, and 2) Transform a run down part of Las Vegas into a "high tech community".
Either one of those is very difficult, combine them and your chance of success is miniscule. Plus in that situation, when your business fails you have failed not just your investors and employees but also your colleagues who depended on you to make the community work.
poor summary (Score:2)
The summary does do a very good job of explaining what was going on...
All of these men are involved in the same project... "The Vegas Downtown Project" who's goal seems to be to bring a tech sector to downtown Vegas. Why that would be a good idea is anyone's guess.
The CEO has stepped down as well. http://techcrunch.com/2014/09/... [techcrunch.com]
The whole thing seems pretty fishy. I don't go to Vegas for a reason...
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Take a look at some of the articles that pop up with a Google search...
https://www.google.com/search?... [google.com]
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A business project isn't a person, so you wouldn't say "who's [sic] goal." Instead, it would be preferable to say "the goal of which."
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Aren't corporations people too?
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Ask me when Texas executes one.
In Business for the Wrong Reasons (Score:5, Insightful)
While the thought of loans from corrupt sources comes to mind as a catalyst, I believe there are other reasons. (this is Vegas, and while Corporations are now the Casino hoods instead of Cosa Nostra, hoods will still make you short-term, high interest loans featuring successful collection agents)
Business IS business.
These people were living their dream, too close to the bone.
1. Never Marry Your Business. That's like marrying your hammer or pocketknife, it is a tool. If it doesn't work , replace it. You are not there to serve it as a marriage partner. It will never fullfill this role and you will waste your life trying. If you spend your life trying and failing, you aren't interested in what you are doing. If you learn from your mistakes and others mistakes, you can't help but climb.Your business that you love is still a soul sucking vampire that will drain you and leave your husk to rot in a ditch. Avoid giving it priority above family, health and other dreams you have. Sacrifice is for chumps.
2. Build your BIG business from smaller businesses and investments. This gives you throwaways to practice your chops with and if they fail, you have learned with one of many baskets of eggs, not the whole hen house. Keep yourself the main investor in the Big One, sell off other ventures as your time and profits demand.
3. Avoid investors in the BIG one, unless you want to retire. Even then, keep a vast majority of it unless the rat race appeals to you less than that island you've been eyeing.
4. Short of transgressing ethics, take every positive break you can, incorporate with the government as little as possible and be honest in your dealings. You are only as good as your word. Even accomplishment is second to this.
5.Go with your intuition every chance you get.
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I think #1 was probably the key driving factor here. People became emotionally invested in their business, and started to identify with it. When the business went south, they had invested so much into it (personally - the financial investment was probably secondary) that they had nothing to fall back onto. At the risk of assuming something of people I never met, I'm going to guess that they justified everything with "if this is gonna make it big, it was worth all the sacrifices I made". And when the busines
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I like the way you put it.
I did neglect to add that borrowing from friends and family is a BAD thing. OPM (other peoples money) is workable in some cases, but other people invest, knowing their risk. Friends and family invest in YOU, not so much as your business. I won't do business with anyone that I wouldn't sell a car to; which means; friends and family. This is part of my reasoning for being self-made.
I also cannot emphasize enough that building from multiple small businesses provides a resource for edu
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Exactly this. Telecom for 35+ years and during that time I studied and taught MA, ran a stunt group (great stress relief, lemme tell ya), sculpted, wrote, painted and did other things. Accept that you *do not* need all the bells and whistles you can accumulate and with the of nicest trimmings and you'll be much better prepared to dump the bad business decision.
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Are you trying to say don't file for corporation status or don't do business with the government? Because if it's the latter and your startup is defense-related, it's very bad advice. I mean, what if someone told Carl Norden not to do business with the government? We'd all be speaking German.
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I've been the defense route. I call it an early mistake, not because of profit, profit was alright. Involvement in defense contracts are time consuming beyond my tolerance. Better things to do.
Simply put, the less government has to do with ANY aspect of your business, the better off you are. Reasons will become apparent with a beer and some quiet thought.
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Yeah, you're right. People have different tolerance, though.
I've done some non-computer related projects for the local government and they worked out pretty well. Paid nicely and on time and pretty stress-free. The fact that this is Chicago and a powerful city councilman is my next door neighbor did't hurt. Of course, it makes it a little easier that we're basically a one-party town and we don't really have regime changes, just sort of an orderly progression of one
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Yow, the famous Chicago politics! Nice stroke of luck to have that neighbor.
I think my caveats are pointed more toward the Fed as entrance to a nightmare.
Yeah, probably a lot of approaches, but, like mathematics , there are a lot of constants and similar considerations, as well.
Business schools might be a good place for some to start, dunno, I never went. Although, I could recommend joining an MLM, even if it is not your thing, just for the education you get with it. It turned out , not my thing, but, thei
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I have to wonder how many people are attempting entrepreneurial endeavours that they are not suited to simply because of the economy. High unemployment is not merely a number, it is desperation and poor decisions and the terrible harm that these can lead to.
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This just seems to be written around the culture of tech startups, there are plenty of small family businesses that are not there to become huge megacorps but to run a shop or make things on a small scale.
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Yeah, I still have an intuitive suspicion about "what really happened here".
The face of it seems just a bit too coincidental and seems to be only Vegas.
Zoom and enhance! (Score:2)
Vegas, baby. (Score:2)
"It's Las Vegas, Jake. Of course people are killing themselves."
High profile failure is just advertisement (Score:2)
Silly as it sounds, they would have had much easier time raising money for next project than some unknown guy. Sounds like personal problems.
OMG! I can SO relate to this. (Score:2, Insightful)
That's the NO #1 reason I'm not starting up my company right now, I have experience and TONS of it, I've
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My thoughts are plenty clear. You are the one who thinks the only fulfillment in life is giving. Hallmark cards are not a viable life philosophy.
Some people _deserve failure_. They won't change unless they taste defeat. People like you hurt them by helping. I take some amusement from the small servings of justice the universe does doll out.
If there is a god, she has one sick sense of humor. You should learn to appreciate her jokes, even if they are on you.
Who can help but smile when a rich heir dies
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Re:OMG! I can SO relate to this. (Score:4, Insightful)
I'm curious, why do you give a shit what others think of you if you yourself are comfortable you're a decent person? I ask with all seriousness. I used to feel that way when I was much younger and at some point sat down and examined myself and how I related to others. I came up positive and thereafter didn't really care what others thought. If you're a good person, that's it, end of story. They're rejecting a good person, the onus is on them.
It's a good question, and to an extent I do care less and less what others think of me, I guess that comes with age. But I still care how others feel, this is how we learn and evolve. If we where perfectly content with who we are and what we know, we wouldn't learn anymore. Now that would be truly tragic.
In life, you never stop having to prove yourself. Sure - you can have money and riches, as an example I can tell you that I have a fully paid house, property and all the gadgets I could ever want, this "oddly enough" buys me a lot of credit with the locals, but also a lot of envy as very few around here actually owns their own property...rather the banks and their mortgages. Still - I always feel that I need to evolve, to become more than I am.
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I'll give you some keys:
1) if you doubt, it means that you think too much.
You are probably obsessed by your thoughts, from what I read.
Since this is a compulsive behavior, I would suggest that you try to actively stop thinking, by practicing meditation, fishing or gardening.
2) you are so much afraid about failure that it pains me.
Probably in your past, you encountered people that were unable to cope healthily with failure (probably your parents, who wanted that you "succeed" so much).
Failure and success are
darwinism (Score:1)
depression is a terrible fate from which to suffer. only the strong-willed survive, as the weak kill themselves after depression has feasted upon their souls.
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depression is a terrible fate from which to suffer. only the strong-willed survive, as the weak kill themselves after depression has feasted upon their souls.
I'm not sure that's accurate. I went through a really brutal depression where I had essentially no will-power yet I wasn't suicidal for a moment. Maybe that would have changed if the depression was worse but I suspect there was some other factor at work. It's probably different for different people but I think one of the big problems is a complete loss of hope and a perception of suicide as the answer and a way to escape the pain. In this case strong will can be a problem, when you're depressed you have no
Sounds dangerous ... (Score:2)
I sincerely hope that he stopped the car first. Otherwise, he could have hurt a number of other people.
Another consequence of the US's stupid attitude to guns. With them being so readily available, many people use them for suicide with a high rate of success, where if they'd had to try less effective methods they may well have had time for second thoughts.
How did Dorothy Parker put it?
Razors pain you;
Re: But that it looks like and accident... (Score:5, Funny)
Think of it as a stealth mode startup seeking to disrupt the living paradigm.
Re: What's the point ? (Score:2)
Ego. Desire to give life meaning through achievements. Sense of Responsibility to have received money (and mounting feeling to have 'wasted it').
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None of which are reasons for suicide.
Re: What's the point ? (Score:4, Insightful)
Your life can change in the blink of an eye.
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These folks had it better than 90% of the World, and when they made a boo boo they killed themselves.
Weak...
The problem is that you fundamentally misunderstand the human condition, and write off people who killed themselves for reasons you think are weak.
I suppose you think it's best that Alan Turing removed himself from the world, since he couldn't bear up under the persecution for being gay. If that occurred before he did his codebreaking work during World War II, we'd be living in a very different world. We'll never know what he *could* have done if he had been saved from committing suicide.
Also Anne Sexto
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There are literally millions of people that wish they could have the chance like that these folks had
Exactly. They got that chance, and they failed. You don't see why that might put them in a bad enough place to consider suicide?
Oh, I wish that I could be... (Score:2)
There are literally millions of people that wish they could have the chance like that these folks had
So my mind was filled with wonder when the evening headlines read
Richard Cory [lyricsfreak.com] went home last night and put a bullet through his head.
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Can you somehow put that on a medical bracelet or in your will somewhere? So that when you hit a rough patch, are feeling down and depressed, have slightly low self esteem and low self confidence, and have a personality predisposed to feeling obligated to perform and not to disappoint -- especially when hundreds of eyes are upon you -- we can save you the trouble of pulling the trigger or jumping, and we can just throw a plastic bag over your head, in the privacy of your own home, so that no one has to see
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Not exactly.
In fact, it's more about "social success".
I wish to succeed and be recognized socially for my success, otherwise I would not have taken all these risks.
If I fail, not only will I have a negative view of myself but also others will have a negative view of me.
What do I have as solution ?
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Many startups start and get going, but neither take off and provide a lot of money for their investors nor run out of money and go bankrupt; they just kind of hang on making just enough to pay their bills. They tend to be lousy places to work and probably suck for those running the company, and the best t
Re:What's the point ? (Score:5, Insightful)
I just don't understand this idea.
Why would you have only one chance? Why would your life from that point forward just suck forever? I left college before I got a degree the first time and started doing database development. The company never did well but also was not horrible and managed to survive overall. However I got bored of it and decided to go back to school.
I just graduated with a degree in chemical and biological engineering, solving a problem for a major biotech company, I am now in Germany about to starts a Master's degree and PhD and some of the experts I know expect I will start at the mid to high six figure range when I get out. That is also if I don't choose to go the startup way where I could make massively more than that.
This was after just doing database development for about 10 years and deciding to go back to school. Sure I was the older person in the class but nobody cared and nobody seems to care now and my experience has been very helpful.
This idea that you only have one chance should be taken out back and shot the way it deserves. You have as many chances as you want and you can always try again.
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they see it as having one chance to make it to billionaire.
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And failing that means life isn't worth living? That's a fucked way of thinking.
Suicidal people are often incredibly selfish; I know because I used to be one, until I survived and realized what a stupid asshole I was being.
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Re:What's the point ? (Score:4, Insightful)
People who haven't been suicidal just don't tend to understand it very well. Those who contemplate suicide are well beyond the point where they can rationally see a future without intolerable pain whether that's physical or psychological. They typically just want to end that pain and cease to be. They don't feel like they deserve the respect you're talking about - they believe their loved ones are better off without them. And in any case they are often beyond caring about what others are going to think of them (those are the ones who won't leave a note - they figure what's the point).
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I wish that we truly understood suicide so we could help these people.
There is a lot of stigma attached to suicide and that makes it hard to do a truly objective view of it. I don't like this whole blame the victim mentality that we have about it or saying we are better off without that person or that they are weak willed etc. I want to know the actual biochemistry of it, what neural structures are present that allow suicide to be done. What actually causes these structural and chemical changes? What can we
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...what neural structures are present that allow suicide to be done.
I don't think it works like that, as the human will is not physical. I can say though, whenever people start focusing more and more on themselves, that's a for sure sign of being depressed. This is why, if you're depressed, you should go to the ocean and stand at the shore, just stare into the horizon. Or if you don't live near water, just look up at the sky. The point being, it puts into perspective how small you are, as well as how small your problems are.
There's a good song written by (a fucking
Re:What's the point ? (Score:4, Insightful)
Have a heart, man.
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The suicide's mantra - "Nobody understands my problems." Bullshit. Almost everyone has had dire thoughts and stresses. It's no one's fault suicides can't quit focusing on any solution other than offing themselves.
People don't commit suicide when they're happy. They do it when they're depressed. Those who have "made the decision" will appear happy to outsiders because they have "found their solution." That's a very dangerous spot to be in. They look like they're coming out of the dumps instead of heading for the dumpster.
The additional problem is, once you've been through a major depression, you're more liable to go through another one. Depression, like happiness, is a chemical state of the brain. Look around
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Depression is a pain sensor just like the nerves in your hand. If you stick your hand in boiling water your body will report to your brain bad things are happening.
I suffer from a chemical imbalance that sets off my depression without the need of an external event. When I've attempted suicide it wasn't because "nobody understands my problems" it was because my depression was telling me I was in boiling water and it wouldn't shut off.
Depression is pain and when it is too much you want to end it by any means.
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Overall I would say that just trying again tends to help.
My first time in college I did okay but not great. When I went back I was very focused. I knew what I wanted out of the degree and chose it for a very specific purpose. I chose all my classes to further my goals and I worked extremely hard on my classes instead of partying. That work has paid off to an insane degree.
I never intended to go to graduate school. However for my final undergrad project I solved a problem that was considered impossible in bi
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That work has paid off to an insane degree.
You got a degree in insanity?
;)
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Well my professors do think I am the most likely person they have ever had as a student to be a mad engineer. So while you don't have to be insane to do what I do is certainly helps.
What I have done so far will save tens of thousands of lives ever year and the stuff I am working on now will save millions. However, I have not used conventional problem solving techniques. I combine engineering with computer programming in a way that seems natural to me but those I have worked with and my professors say is not
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I just don't understand this idea.
Why would you have only one chance? Why would your life from that point forward just suck forever?
A couple things here.
You are 100 percent correct, We will all fail at something. It's what we do afterwards that counts.
People have checked out early forever, who knows the guys rationale or lack of it
But here's what I think is a looming problem. Young people, at least in the US, have come through the batshit insane High self esteem/zero tolerance schooling system. They've had it drilled into their heads the not quite contradictory, but close to it concepts of "You are the most special person in the world", and "If you are caught smoking the the bathroom, it will go on your permanent record, and you'll end up living under a bridge", and They'll be expelled and their life completely ruined if you accidentally bring a spork to school.
So these poor kids get out of school not only thinking that they are the most special thing on earth (while not having earned that self esteem yet) and thinking that there is no tolerance for error. Failure is forever. So many crash and burn, and that self esteem takes a big hit.
Time will tell how the kids will react. Fortunately we have pharmaceutical companies selling maintenance "leveling" drugs, I guess. Still, that has to be a nasty hit to the ego. I failed at a few things in life, but I already knew I was a dumshit, and not to be all that surprised or dismayed.
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Well, most people get zero chances.
It would just be... ordinary. Work every day to pay your expenses and hope maybe you'll be able save enough to one day not have to work any more when you're too old to enjoy the free time. Same as the rest of us, but a lot harder to take when you had a chance at something much better.
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I don't believe that most people have zero chances.
During the senior design project most teams just slacked off and put in the minimal work required to get a grade. One of the companies I knew was currently hiring and in the exact field the project was in. If that team had done a good job they would have all gotten VERY nice job offers. Only one other team got offers at all and while it was not amazing it was a good offer and the team had done a very good job on their project. They saved a company that make
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The will to prepare to succeed is more important than the will to succeed. The GP poster took the time to prepare. These opportunities don't just fall in your lap because "I should get it because I have the will to succeed." That sort of magical thinking doesn't work on shark tank or dragon's den either.
Yes, it's hard to get out of poverty - but what's worse now is how easy it is to slide right back into it compared to past generations. Economic mobility - the ability to change your place on the income
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I went to an instate school and applied for many grants and also ended up with some loans. Shortly after I started school my business partner died and I was left running a business by myself that I really had no idea how to run. I managed to be a full time student and keep the business running. The work I put in to do that was insane and I had no breaks beyond about 1 to 2 days in a row for 3 years.
I did not do ANY parties when I went back to school. I pretty much just studied, went to class and worked. I w
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One of those may have a severe negative effect on how you feel about yourself, and how others view you.
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I left on my own. I started to hate the physics degree i was working on and wanted to do something else.
Re:What's the point ? (Score:5, Insightful)
It hasn't much to do with rational thinking. Mental health is not something that we are conditionned to think about. Among other things, it relies heavily on a fine balance of chemicals in the brain. You have been able to think of your circumcstances rationally, and your are better for it. However, stress can easily lead to despair for various poeople, even if their circumstances are not as dire as those of others. Just as some people may be consumed by rage for no good reason.
Mental health is tricky, and I am certainly not an expert on the subject or on how to maintain it. Hopefully as a society we can move on from it being a taboo subject to people being able to routinely seeking help or just evaluation. How many tragedies could be avoided then?
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> I just graduated with a degree in chemical and biological engineering
May I ask what country you studied in? In the U.S (and now soon in Australia) it is very hard to just "go back to school", if not impossible for many people, purely from a financial point of view. For many people, in terms of study & changing careers, there are only 1 or 2 chances.
Re: What's the point ? (Score:1)
This is just stupid. Many of the most successful founders failed many times before their big win. It isn't easy, I think people go into the startup world thinking it is an easy path to striking it rich when it is far from.
Re: What's the point ? (Score:3, Interesting)
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To end one's life is a choice,
Some people feel that way. Others believe that your life was provided by your parents/family/ancestors/community/etc. and that it is not yours but an ongoing debt to someone/something else.
It's certainly not unambiguously an "ultimate right".
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To kill oneself when one has a healthy body is an insult to everyone with aging/ailing bodies who are still fighting to survive. It's an affront to God (if you're religious) or a cowardly waste of life force (if you're not).
Suicide *can* be an honorable exit, but you had better be facing some really serious charges (like plotting a coup against the Emperor, you failed, but if you off yourself then Caesar will leave your family alone). Suiciding just because you lost money on your internet startup is pretty
Re:What's the point ? (Score:4, Insightful)
Suicide has nothing to with doing 'something else'. It's not about the future at all.
Suicide is about Making The Pain Stop. Now. At Any Cost.
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Thanks for the obligatory, "If you feel bad, reach out to someone or the suicide hotline." I thought I only got this PC bullshit from TV.
Not all ./ members are cold psychopathic nerds that can only understand logic/black & white/1 and 0s. If there is anyone on the planet that has felt the suffering of rejection...it must surely be nerds. Have you ever seen the movie "Revenge of the Nerds?", yeah...it's a comedy, but very much rooted in reality.
I think it's great that Slashdot flashes the human side of who we are once in a blue moon.
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I'm a bit curious. Are you judging the suicides becuase you've been a similar situation? That is to say, worked absurdly hard to get a small business rolling, only to fail and be judged as a failure by many of the people you know (plus whatever contacts you have on social media). Or, are you just playing the "they can't handle that much negative stimilus, how pathetic" card?
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Rather defensive. For what it's worth, I'm not out to get you. Though I could see why you'd think so since this is /. and all.
My thought preliminary judgement of you was "I hope it's the former." I can kind of get people who look down on others for not doing emotionally as well as them in similar situations (soldiers who look down on other soldiers who have PTSD for exmaple). But if you're just judging someone without knowing their situation, or at least their emotioinal state? Yea, that's being a smug dick
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I baited you (again) for saying that I'm not here for an argument (not "out to get you")? Only way you can call that me baiting you is if you think I'm lying. And yea dude (or dudette), that's being defensive.
There's really two choices available here. You understand their situation and you're judging them. Or, you don't understand their situation and your're judging them. You know, or you don't know. How exactly are these "appalling choices?"
Well, in any event, if you do wish to elaborate on your stance (be
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