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Hugh Pickens writes "Megan Garber reports that the more friends you have on Facebook — or, perhaps more accurately, the more 'friends' you have on Facebook — the more stressed you're likely to be about actually having them. The wider your Facebook network, the more likely it is that something you say or do on the site will end up offending one of that network's members. The stress comes from the kind of personal versioning that is common in analog life — the fact that you (probably) behave slightly differently when you're with your mom than you do when you're with your boss, or with your boyfriend, or with your dentist. A study of over 300 Facebook users found that on average people are Facebook friends with seven different social circles. The most common group was friends who were known from offline environments (97 percent added them as friends online), followed by extended family (81 percent), siblings (80 percent), friends of friends (69 percent), and colleagues (65 percent). Those are, in the sociological sense, very different groups — groups that carry different (and unspoken-because-obvious) behavioral expectations. Per the study's survey, 'adding employers or parents resulted in the greatest increase in anxiety.'"
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  • by ohnocitizen (1951674) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @06:36PM (#42123609)
    This makes a ton of sense. There is a natural urge to share the things you care about deeply. Whether you are passionate about the environment, religion's role in society, or a particular conflict - you are bound to have friends who disagree with you. Sometimes passionately. At the same time there is a palpable pressure not to be political on Facebook. So when you (or a friend) posts something polarizing, the attention it gets (or doesn't get) can really stress you out.

    Its a shame, especially since political discourse is so very essential to a healthy society - that social sites like Facebook make it even more stressful than it already can be.
    • by Radres (776901)

      The thing is, most of the people on your list already made up their minds who they're going to vote for. By posting political stuff on Facebook, you're alienating a large number of your "friends" to only reach a handful of undecided voters. It's not a good venue for reaching people, given the personal price you pay.

      • by ultranova (717540)

        By this logic there is no good venue for reaching people. After all, if they already made up their minds, your message is just spam.

    • by Jetra (2622687)
      My "friends" happen to be zombies that idle on their FB accounts. They post stupid updates and they pretend they care such as "Twinkies are gone, OMG! Gotta stock up" followed by a picture. I told him off and got lashed at.by my "friends." It doesn't stress me out, I'm completely ticked off by how people fake care about most of the junk they post.

      I hardly ever go on mine anymore. It's awful just some of the stupidity that people will post just for a LIKE.
      • Sounds like you're ready to take that final, last step my friend and DELETE that fb account. Real life anxiously awaits your return. :)
    • by swillden (191260)

      Doesn't Facebook have something like Google+ circles? I thought they added that shortly after Google+ launched...

      Anyway, on Google+ I handle this by defining some "topic" circles into which I place people who are annoying about certain topics. Then when I post about those things, I don't include those circles. It'd be nice if I could actually specify "everyone but these" rather than having to manually click the set of circles, but it only takes a second or two with the current UI.

      I would think you co

      • by Bill, Shooter of Bul (629286) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @07:35PM (#42124363) Journal

        yes, but its a thousand times more difficult to use than in Google plus. Something as simple as draging contacts and droping them into various categories has completly eluded facebook's engineers.

        Its death by a billion configurations for every action and every thing you upload/tag/post/poke/etc that were bolted onto a system that originally only had two categories of people (friends, not friends).

    • Re: (Score:2, Interesting)

      by fullback (968784)

      "There is a natural urge to share the things you care about deeply."
      Who says? Do you have any proof of this natural urge?

      "Its a shame, especially since political discourse is so very essential to a healthy society."
      Who says? Do you have any proof of this? The U.S. is obsessed with political discourse to the point of being a dysfunctional society.

    • by Seumas (6865) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @08:17PM (#42124749)

      And that's why I don't use social networks (well, I use LinkedIN).

      I don't need to know every person I ever come in contact with at a deep level. I barely need to know most family members that well. So, I sure as hell don't need to know every detail and thought and view of my neighbors, my UPS delivery guy, the guy I traded business cards with at a conference last year, every person I ever have a conversation with at a bar, every person I interact with online in a community, family members, extended family members, in-laws, friends of friends, and colleagues at that level.

      There is value in just knowing that my neighbor is a nice guy and treats me well and that we can rely on each other for help. In trading a friendly smile and a brief conversation with the UPS guy or the person at the bus stop. In getting along with my coworkers and other acquaintances and family members.

      I do not need reasons to dislike these people. Their views on politics, religion, science, and current events are not relevant to me. The last thing I need is for the neighbor that I'll spend much or most of my life dealing with to leave me with a bad taste in my mouth, because I see his constant stream of "libtards durp durp durp" and "republithugs durp durp" and "fuckin' pinko communist atheist scientists need to accept that the world is created by gawwwwd" every day.

      In other words, there is a great deal of value in obscuring many thoughts and having various levels of interaction with people. I may need to know my potential mate that well. And maybe my closest family members (though not necessarily even that). I do NOT need to know all of that (nor the daily activities) of every other person in my life. They do more harm than good and knowing that someone I deal with on a daily basis holds some pretty repugnant views on the world doesn't improve everything. I can't do anything about it. All it does is colors every interaction I'll have with them in the future.

      So, I don't use social networks. If someone has something to tell me, they can call me or email me or even write a letter. I don't need to have them broadcast "at me" constantly. And I don't need to let my view of people be tainted by things that would otherwise NEVER HAVE COME UP IN OUR INTERACTIONS if it weren't for social networks.

      • by JWW (79176)

        Amen, brother.

        Hope that doesn't offend. ;-)

      • I do not need reasons to dislike these people. Their views on politics, religion, science, and current events are not relevant to me. The last thing I need is for the neighbor that I'll spend much or most of my life dealing with to leave me with a bad taste in my mouth, because I see his constant stream of "libtards durp durp durp" and "republithugs durp durp" and "fuckin' pinko communist atheist scientists need to accept that the world is created by gawwwwd" every day.

        You know, I know this steak doesn't ex

    • Zuckerberg's fault (Score:4, Insightful)

      by AthanasiusKircher (1333179) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @09:07PM (#42125273)

      Mark has famously said that wanting to have multiple identities constitutes a "lack of integrity."

      Apparently, to the people running Facebook, you're not allowed to discuss different topics or to use different language with different people. After all, in real life you always talk the same way to the old ladies at church as to the guys at the bar, right? And the same way to your coworkers and boss as to your close friends, right? And the same to your parents as to your spouse in the bedroom, right?

      Of course, the reality of this is that Facebook doesn't give a crap about users. They just want to make money off of you. And the more interactions they can track, the more they know about everyone. That's why every so often they seem to expand the default privacy settings to make your information ever more widely available. Every time you "like" a comment, follow a link on your friend's post, etc., that's another datapoint.

      But if you restrict most of your posts to only a small group, that's fewer potential datapoints. Not good business for Facebook, who wants to sell your interactions to the highest bidder. If they made it ridiculously easy to have multiple identities or groups so you could interact like everyone does in real life, you're only going to share posts with people you think will already like it. And that's something Facebook probably knows already. They're more interested in making interconnections that could tell more about people than the obvious ones... so they force you to cast the net wider.

    • Well said. Facebook has no context which is why reactions to a political post may be amplified. In real life you may be at a dinner party where the conversation has moved in the right direction. On Facebook you just throw it out there and hit stressed parents, people who have just lost a loved one, hungover friends, etc. etc. Lots of people who just don't care for your opinion right now and may actively dislike the fact that they saw it. That's why most Facebook posts tend to be of the lowest common de

  • by cultiv8 (1660093) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @06:37PM (#42123627) Homepage
    Did this about a year ago, dropped all friends except for a "close" 30 or so; my immediate neighbors, some close friends throughout the years, and family. No coworkers, no friends of friends, no one from HS or college or grad school.

    The great thing about growing older is that it no longer stresses me out when my parents find out I'm smoking pot with the neighbors. ;)
    • Scott Adams had a Dilbert cartoon about how you can cut out about half the people in your life and still be produtive and happy. I got rid of some 'friends' that really weren't, sometimes that's what you have to do in order to learn who your real friends are.
  • How about... (Score:5, Insightful)

    by Revotron (1115029) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @06:38PM (#42123641)
    You just stop giving a fuck about what people think of you?

    I find it's a lot easier to be myself when I maintain an internal locus of identity. If people don't like or at least respect who I am and what I say, why do I count them as my friend? Differences within a social circle can be healthy and rewarding. Altering your behavior to conform to a social precedent is not.
    • Re:How about... (Score:5, Insightful)

      by rudy_wayne (414635) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @06:45PM (#42123729)

      You just stop giving a fuck about what people think of you?.

      Better idea: Stop giving a fuck about Facebook.

      Seriously. Why are people still paying any attention to that crap.

      • by ackthpt (218170)

        They're obsessive compusives in training. Facebook has them hooked, they care a disproportionate amount about how they are percieved on it. Sometimes you need to turn off the computer and/or the mobile phone and get out and actually socialized with people face to face.

      • by Dan667 (564390)
        I agree with this. I don't use facebook.
      • by Synerg1y (2169962)
        Because for some people it's almost replaced telephone communication. Also it's harder for a girl to ignore a wall post in front of all her friends than a 1on1 text message, there's other reasons... most of them indicative of our society going to hell & us thinking too highly of ourselves to engage in meager face to face conversation. Coincidentally, the amount of mass shootings has gone up considerably in the last decade.
        • by djchristensen (472087) on Thursday November 29, 2012 @03:04AM (#42127117)

          Also it's harder for a girl to ignore a wall post in front of all her friends ...

          Now there's an auspicious start to a long-lasting relationship.

      • Reasons I use Facebook: Events. I haven't found a site that is free, makes it as easy as Facebook does to invite friends and let those friends invite their friends. If you are involved in any kind of theater (especially comedy), this is a very valuable tool.
        • So theatre comedy is just that different from theatre drama? FB events are highly annoying for those who don't care about someone's event.
    • Re:How about... (Score:5, Insightful)

      by SleazyRidr (1563649) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @06:57PM (#42123903)

      It's not about having an identity, it's about what parts of that identity you choose to express, and the appropriate times and places for that. I know a few people who despite being Christian are very nice people, so I don't rant at them about inconsistency in the bible as I know it'll do nothing but aggravate them. I do however like to share funny anti-religious pictures/jokes/whathaveyou with my atheist friends. Having everybody pooled together on Facebook gives me that pause of "is this appropriate for everyone who'll see this?"

      • It's worse than that. Even if you can manage to separate the different roles (or treat every post like it's completely public as a common denominator), if your friends can't do it too then you can get in trouble for things they post about you
    • by Synerg1y (2169962)
      Some people include a lot of family and co-workers in their facebook friends list, this becomes a problem when another friend posts those new year's photos and tags you in them setting visibility to friends of friends... my personal opinion is it's none of their f'in business, but life doesn't always work that way.
    • I'm generally me, except when I get the urge to make, "like" or share harsh jokes about fat people. There are a couple of people that I may offend. About half my friends are religious though, and I openly post things making fun of religion at times. Weird.

    • by Kjella (173770)

      If you don't modify your behavior to the social context you're in, then you're the strange one. A working relationship is not the same as a friendship which is not the same as a relationship which is not the same as blood ties (well, hopefully not) which is not the same as old classmates and whatever else is on the Facebook list. Even in the cases where there's some "broadcast" news to announce to absolutely everyone I probably wouldn't tell everyone in the same way with the same level of detail. In real li

    • by multiben (1916126)
      Because unless you're a sociopath, you need to have some degree of concern what people think of you. Can you honestly say that you behave the same way with your wife/girlfriend/boyfriend as you do with your boss or your mum or your grandma? When you're alone do you do things you wouldn't do in public? If not, then why not? Because you care what other people think about you even if you don't want to admit it.
  • Parents? (Score:5, Interesting)

    by Lanforod (1344011) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @06:39PM (#42123649)
    When my parents added me as friends, my facebook usage dropped from 2-3 hrs/wk to 10 minutes/wk. Actually lessened my anxiety and freed up my time!
  • by The Archon V2.0 (782634) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @06:42PM (#42123701)
    ... and I'm not stressed about it at all. Huh. My anecdote IS the singular of data!
  • If Facebook didn't exist, I wouldn't be stressed about it at all. Instead, we get all these stupid stories about this website and stuff. That stresses the shit out of me. The fact that people think I should be using this privacy sucking tool of evil also stresses me. But having friends on that website? Well, I don't use it, so that doesn't stress me.

    Also, this is something that people on /. have been saying for ages. It's one of the reasons that Google Plus is meant to be wonderful. (I wouldn't know, I don't use it either.) Being able to separate work friends from pub friends from high school friends from family seems like a pretty obvious requirement.

    The idea of forgetfulness is another thing. If I say something stupid down at the pub, my workmates aren't likely to find out about it. The other patrons of the pub are likely to forget about it before too long as well (unless it was particularly stupid). But on the Internet...

    Gee, anyone else have any obvious differences between the Internet and RL?

    • by ackthpt (218170)

      Be glad you don't have a teenage daughter whose entire social circle revolves around her fb account. I've seen it and if she were my daughter we'd have a talk about only getting to use the stupid thing on weekends. Go out and visit with your friends in real life, rather than sweating over what will next pop up on your screen.

    • by bmo (77928) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @07:10PM (#42124065)

      Everyone goes through the phase where one learns (or not) the difference between persistent public communication, and forgetful (I'm glad you used this term) communication.

      IRC is forgetful
      Telnet chats are forgetful
      IMs and VOIP can be forgetful, depending on the service.

      The caveat is that everything that is over the internet can be logged by one of the participating parties, but in general, the default is no logging for these services.

      Everything that is a modern version of email, usenet, and BBSes are not forgetful. The default is that everything is a "permanent." It was laughable that people got their panties in a twist when DejaNews suddenly showed up - as if nobody ever saved usenet posts for fun and profit before DejaNews existed. The hand-wringing over FB and other persistent communication is just more of the same.

      The people who can't distinguish between these services are the ones who have a problem.

      I have the advantage in that I learned this shit back in the 80s.

      >IRL

      Wait... wait... with the availability of cameras everywhere, even embedded into eyeglasses with direct upload to Internet services, I have to say that your assumed "forgetful" drunken conversation down at the pub about how you lust after Justin Bieber, after ten gin gimlets, is going to be archived for fun and profit, for all posterity.

      --
      BMO

      • by rmstar (114746)

        IRC is forgetful

        Many irc channels have a logbot. I know one that has uninterrupted records of everything that was said on it for at least a decade.

        • by bmo (77928)

          Yet you failed to read the following sentence where I said:

          "but in general, the default is no logging for these services."

          I know all about bots. We had them in telnet chats back in the 90s. But the *default* is no bots. If you are paranoid, tunnel ytalk or home-rolled voip over ssh. But while even that leaves one open to the person on the other end logging, the default is much more forgetful than the default modes of a web forum, usenet, blog, bbs, etc.

          --
          BMO

  • by WillgasM (1646719)
    I tend to just say whatever I want and let people delete me if needed. I probably don't need to be friends with all my aunts and 8yo cousins. When some debate arises, I don't mind; I just win. All the work friends probably keep me from posting too many pot legalization videos and such, but that's what Tumblr is for.
    • When some debate arises, I don't mind; I just win.

      Debates are not about winning, they are about airing ideas. What happens when you win? Someone else is now forced to follow your mode of thought? You get to treat them like shit? What is winning in this context?

      Debates are a chance to reality check your ideas. Each person will still go away thinking whatever they want to think regardless of who won.

  • Seriously, I don't give a rat's patoot that someone is trying to get ahold of my, tagged me or replied to something I said. If I feel like visiting fb I will, but I'm no slave to it and the more it pesters me the more I consider linking the stupid thing to a deal letter email box.

  • Remove one profile from Facebook, yourself.
  • I have friends from different political views and religions and never comment on almost anything they write

    Anti Obama nonsense
    Nonsense about Muslims taking over or how America is a Christian country
    Etc

    Just ignore it

  • by Stone316 (629009) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @06:54PM (#42123847) Journal

    This is exactly why Google+ has a feature called circles. Given the audience here i'm sure I don't have to go into details.

    Unfortunately tho, Google+ hasn't really caught on outside some specific groups such as photographers. As well, while the tech savvy have no issues migrating to yet another social network, the problem is your not going to get most of your 'friends' and family to do so. I'm lucky my mom is on facebook, let alone trying to get her to move to Google+.

    Since I live away from most of my family I use facebook to upload pictures of the kids, keep in touch etc. So as long as even a few of them stay on facebook then i'm not going anywhere anytime soon.

    So given that, I basically treat facebook as a public bulletin board. I don't say or post anything there that I would be ashamed of saying in front of my mom or boss.

    • by DCstewieG (824956)

      Facebook copied this feature a while ago with "Lists". For example, I have a Gamers list that's self-explanatory. You can post to lists or everyone excluding certain lists, like Coworkers.

    • by alen (225700)

      google+ is nothing but an advertising path for bloggers and some other internet celebs

      i use it to kill time but don't think of it as a real social network. its like a forum where people post semi-cool stuff

    • by lennier (44736)

      So given that, I basically treat facebook as a public bulletin board. I don't say or post anything there that I would be ashamed of saying in front of my mom or boss.

      Yes. This, exactly.

      Treat Facebook as a (sometimes lossy) broadcast medium to the entire planet which sometimes just happens to restrict itself to everyone you ever knew and everyone they ever know, and you'll be fine.

      Treat it as a private one-to-one messaging channel and you'll get burned very badly.

    • by Sporkinum (655143)

      Why not run your own blog? That way you have full control over sharing pictures and who gets to see what? And then you are not feeding the beast.

  • by Hatta (162192) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @06:56PM (#42123881) Journal

    GEORGE: Ah you have no idea of the magnitude of this thing. If she is allowed to infiltrate this world, then George Costanza as you know him, ceases to exist! You see, right now, I have Relationship George, but there is also Independent George. That's the George you know, the George you grew up with -- Movie George, Coffee shop George, Liar George, Bawdy George.

    JERRY: I, I love that George.

    GEORGE: Me Too! And he's dying Jerry! If Relationship George walks through this door, he will kill Independent George! A George, divided against itself, cannot stand!

  • I hardly post anything to mine. In fact I don't think I've posted a status since I joined back in 2007.

    However, I probably get more stressed reading other people's pages and comparing my boring life to them.

    Once I start feeling bad I try to remind myself that I'm comparing my life lows to their highlight reel.

    • by roc97007 (608802)

      I hardly post anything to mine. In fact I don't think I've posted a status since I joined back in 2007.

      However, I probably get more stressed reading other people's pages and comparing my boring life to them.

      Once I start feeling bad I try to remind myself that I'm comparing my life lows to their highlight reel.

      I'm willing to bet your life isn't *that* boring. At least five of my "friends" post photos of their meals, and one relative posted every title he rented on Netflix until I finally turned off his news feed. (He apparently watches a *lot* of TV...) How boring could your life be, in comparison to that?

  • by 3seas (184403) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @07:00PM (#42123937) Journal

    Given the history of usenet negative and troll postings as a rule of thumb... its the lack of a dislike and a "fuck you" button that causes peoples frustration to build up inside... (no vent release)...

    • by roc97007 (608802)

      Given the history of usenet negative and troll postings as a rule of thumb... its the lack of a dislike and a "fuck you" button that causes peoples frustration to build up inside... (no vent release)...

      There is some truth to that. I guess my response would be, a well thought-out verbal poke in the right place might get a much more satisfying reaction than just punching a "you're a damned dirty troll" button.

  • ...what if you ENJOY offending the easily offendable?

    I will note that the more "friends" you have, the more likely it is that whatever you write has a correspondingly increasing likelihood of offending *someone*. So why not just embrace it? Less stress. There, solved it for you.

  • I am not stressed out at all by Facebook. In fact, I have never even seen a Facebook web page in my whole life.

    The only reason I am aware of the existence of Fb is all the talk on /. about it.

    As an anti-social, outspoken oldster, I have absolutely on interest in that level of being social.../. is about where my threshold is.

    • by jitterman (987991)
      Amen. My life is quite nice without an account on FB. My fiancee deleted hers just after the most recent US presidential election, as she got tired of all the posts claiming that "this is it - the world is now going to end, our country will become 100% socialist and fall apart" etc. She, too, is less stressed/annoyed without one. It's not very hard to survive cutting the cord.
  • by roc97007 (608802) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @07:22PM (#42124221) Journal

    ...is debunking, with references, all the crap forwards my "friends" Share in their data stream.

    I mean geeze, it takes less than 60 seconds to find three references that the "carjacker leaves leaflet on your back window" thing is a hoax, or that quote from Thomas Jefferson was four words taken out of context in a passage that means the exact opposite. But people whine "it's too hard to check and if it helps just one person it's worth hitting 'Share'". No, it really isn't. Snopes. Learn it, use it, live it.

    Every once in awhile I post a picture of an open front door with "Hit 'Share' if you know what this is and how to use it". Yeap, you're right, I'm not terribly popular with some types of people.

    I think there are people who are stressed, and people who cause stress. I'm proud to be one of the latter category. :-)

  • Facebook is a social outlet that acts as a microcosom for real life. The people I know that stress over facebook also stress over vauge text messages that might mean something negative, gossip, and what other people might be saying about them behind their backs. They also add more freinds because their level of insecurity goes down when the other person clicks "accept friend request."

    I also know people with a thousand or more friends who never get stressed in cyberspace or otherwise. They always post some j

  • No such problem with twitter? Maybe twitter is for more easy going relationships, and facebook for more intense. S
  • by rnbc (174939) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @08:09PM (#42124689) Homepage

    I solved those issues long ago by behaving in the same way for all social circles. I've set for myself what I think are acceptable and honorable behavior patterns and abide by them always. Take it, or just leave me alone, it's that simple. That includes my friends, co-workers, parents, and just about anyone I know. It means I have to restrict myself a bit, but it also means I'm essentially a better person.

    PS: yes, some persons don't like it, but they are a tiny minority.

    • by lennier (44736)

      I solved those issues long ago by behaving in the same way for all social circles. I've set for myself what I think are acceptable and honorable behavior patterns and abide by them always. Take it, or just leave me alone, it's that simple. That includes my friends, co-workers, parents, and just about anyone I know. It means I have to restrict myself a bit, but it also means I'm essentially a better person.

      ++++++++++ this.

      If you're being stressed or shocked by the behaviour or social expectations of your Facebook friends (and you used the site as it's designed, ie, you friended people you actually know rather than a bunch of random strangers to get game points), then you either have terrible friends, or you have terrible social skills. Either way, it's a social problem, not a Facebook problem, and the solution is likely going to be a social one.

      It's the same thing with Wikipedia, which is a microcosm of acade

  • Facebook is not stressing me out.

    I dont use facebook.

  • by Charliemopps (1157495) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @09:13PM (#42125319)

    I was on facebook... and had several "incidents" Finally, this hippy friend of my wife started doing this psychedelic artwork that she was making prints of and selling on some art website. Don't get me wrong, she was really talented, and the art was pretty good. But she's a hippie and a pothead, so when she posted a particularly ridiculous 60's looking psychedelic painting and linked it on facebook, I went to the site, took the imagine, Photoshopped a pot leaf into the middle of it and re-posted it with "There, I fixed it for you." She replied "You're a jerk" Which could have been mad... could have been funny... hard to tell on facebook but oh-well.

    Well, it didn't end there. You see, in order to up the photo, for some reason I had to host it online. I can't remember why... anyways, so I just used the same art print auction site that she did. Well, my version of her print skyrocketed on the sites charts in a matter of a day or 2. I hadn't expected that at all, and wasn't really sure what to do. So I sent her the credentials to the bogus account I had made and told her to take it over so she could get all the proceeds. I didn't want to me making money off a joke version of her art. SHE DID NOT TAKE IT WELL. To say the least. I thought the money would have made her happy, but you'd think I'd killed her puppy.

    I no longer use facebook. After about 6 months she finally was willing to come to our house again, walked in the door and said "We shall never speak of it again" and we didn't. I wonder how much money it made her...

  • by n6kuy (172098) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @10:28PM (#42125899)

    Also, if you don't want to get fat, don't eat;
    and if you don't want to get social diseases, don't have sex.

    See? Real easy!

  • by guttentag (313541) on Wednesday November 28, 2012 @11:01PM (#42126125) Journal
    I only counted five in the summary. Heres the full list of the 7 Circles of Facebook Hell:

    1. Friends who were known from offline environments
    2. Extended family
    3. Siblings
    4. Friends of friends
    5. Colleagues
    6. Corporations like Zynga you've given access to your data (unwittingly or otherwise)
    7. Corporations Facebook has given access to your data
  • I have over 100 friends on facebook. With just a couple exceptions, all of them are real acquaintances or friends, people who I would deliberately talk to if I ran into them on the street, and vice versa. In spite of this, facebook only stresses me out in the same way that face to face interaction does, when I get in an argument with someone. But I would get into the same argument with them if we spoke in person, so is that really facebook?

    I get way more stressed out by G+, because of all the dipsticks that

  • Mainly when it over stuff I say. Generally people take it wrong, and get worked up over it, and I find it amusing.

    Someone is always going to get mad, or disagree with what you are saying. And thanks to modern technology, it's even easier to get everyone's opinions and beliefs on matters. While it's harder to ignore, you just need to exercise some self control and let it go.

    If you don't like what I say, good. If it makes you mad, even better. If you want to kill me because of it, sweet! I'm in

  • It isn't all that stressful.

    You don't friend people you don't know somehow.

    You have one Facebook page for family or work........and another where you be more relaxed about what you say.

    Just like you have a personal email account separate from your work email account.

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